re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?

Expecting this thread to be 50 pages next time I check this evening because someone found the girl and got her to create a TD account.

Don't let me down, OT

Op it's no wonder you're a virgin. You're 38 years old and seemingly know next to nothing about women.

I'm not necessarily mad at the attempt, but rather how you went about it. You went about it like this was a business transaction at work.

Your best bet would be if you could have this conversation face-to-face, over drinks would be optimal. At least then you could compliment her beauty, make her feel special, wanted, adored, etc.

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The fact that you’re asking this on a board suggests you may lack friends, because it’s 100% something you could ask them. Or at least watch American Pie 2.

You might have gotten away with this in person, where you could laugh it off if you needed to. But an email that she can keep getting pissed off about & that you responded to defensively? You can get in all the “reps” you want-being inconsiderate and immature will negate prowess.

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I don’t think the idea of bringing it up was out of bounds but this came across as desperate for all I read. As mentioned, you should have done it in person while hanging out.

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I know that's probably where I went wrong. I was just too reserved to ask something like that in person to her. From her reaction it was probably the correct decision. I'm sure she could have lost her sh*t if we were hanging out somewhere. Obviously at this point I'll never know if asking out in person would've changed the answer but I'll know for next time.

You really need a prostitute man. I can’t believe you sent that email to her

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Women friends will always essentially betray you

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With your approach you were the betrayer. You freaked her out.

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Go to www.skipthegames.com and select your city. It is designed for men in this situation. Thank me later my friend

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TIL Rayville has a surprisingly large number to choose from.

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I really shouldve woken up earlier for this thread

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Scruffy is no player…at all, but, damn, some of this is blatantly obvious.

Can see why you don't have much prior experience

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Let's be completely honest for a second. Both our dating lives are utter disasters and the prospects aren't good.

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As you know starting earlier this year I've really been wanting to explore my sexuality and grow sexually as a man. I have been to a strip club 4 times now and I've realized how much I love physical contact with a woman.

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There are two options for this. One would be to find a sex worker/escort but I don't want to do that. Two is where you would come in and this leads to my question. Would you be interested in being friends with benefits and having purely physical sex at times?

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thank you for bringing a smile to my face.