Definitely need some advice. As someone who has been friend zoned by many women and always rejected I don't have that much sexual experience. So I decided to ask one of my few women (now former) friends (who is also sexually inexperienced) if she would be interested in a FWB situation to help both our dating situations. Here was my message:
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Good Morning! It was good catching up last night. I wanted to reach back out with a question.

I wanted to send this by email so I could provide specifics on my reasoning for this request.

I'll preface this by saying if you aren't interested it's okay and I wouldn't want this question to hurt our friendship.

Let's be completely honest for a second. Both our dating lives are utter disasters and the prospects aren't good. Both of us aren't particularly sexually experienced. Especially as a guy that's a big deal as most women are going to expect a 38 year old man to have significant sexual experience. I worry regularly that even if I found a woman I really liked that it would end with her laughing me out of the bedroom when it becomes obvious I'm not sexually experienced.

As you know starting earlier this year I've really been wanting to explore my sexuality and grow sexually as a man. I have been to a strip club 4 times now and I've realized how much I love physical contact with a woman.

With that said, I need to take the next step and gain additional experience in having sex before I get into a relationship with a woman.

There are two options for this. One would be to find a sex worker/escort but I don't want to do that. Two is where you would come in and this leads to my question. Would you be interested in being friends with benefits and having purely physical sex at times?

It would benefit both of us a we could become better at sex in a completely casual and non-pressure filled environment. We could take it slowly and I believe we would both benefit from the arrangement.

It would purely by physical. No emotional connection. Obviously no relationship. Just two friends who have sex.

We could take it slow and just figure out what works and what doesn't work. I trust you and I assume you trust me after all these years. It would be a fun no pressure situation. Would this be something you would be interested in or be willing to consider?
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Here was her response this morning:
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I've been trying to think of a good way to respond and was caught off guard from your messages this morning. I'm not interested in fwb or having casual sex. That's something I'm not into and will only have sex in a committed relationship. As a good friend that is something you should have known and I'm shocked that you would even ask this, which makes me think you don't me at all or value or friendship. Not only am I annoyed that you asked this but also the way you asked it. You crossed the line as a friend and I don't think I can get past this. I hope it was worth it because you definitely ruined our friendship. Please don't contact me again.
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My reaction was "Yes how dare I take care of my own needs as a man and make an offer benefitting both of us. How dare I craft a thoughtful message even telling her if no it's okay.". Needless to say I sent her a "nice" response telling her what I thought and ended the friendship.

From a more neutral perspective, was I really that wrong to ask a (now former) friend to be a fwb? Was I that in the wrong to the point where the woman was that angry or did the woman in your opinion overreact?

I know, many of you all are going to say TLDR, but if you do read it I think you'll enjoy the content, lol.

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