TheInvisibleMan

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I mean this can’t be real. You emailed someone for sex?

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Yep 100%.

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Dude, don’t let this place get you down.

I get the impression that you’re pressing too hard.

Try relaxing and working on other aspects of your life. It will improve your confidence in yourself and before you know it, all this will seem very unimportant. That’s whe love unexpectedly falls into your lap, and having an adjusted attitude, it will be successful for you.

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Yes this place has been harsh as I expected but there's been some good advice. I'll definitely admit that I am someone who overthinks things and probably presses too hard. Like others have said I've always believed in honesty but I know there can be too much information. Showing desperation due to lack of sex is definitely not something that is going to help me and I see that now.

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What part of

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Please don't contact me again.


didn’t you understand?

You sound kinda creepy. No wonder she wanted no part of you.

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If she was going to do that and we were going full gloves off I was going to get the last word in.

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Not only is this a setback for you, but the reverberations from this is going to set us all back. One giant leap backwards for mankind.

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Haha now I think you're giving me too much credit. :rotflmao:

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So you in your infinite wisdom decided to double down on stupidity. IF this is true you're one of the most socially awkward people ever to post on this site. This thread puts you into Boo Krewe and Trillhog territory.

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It is true and yes I did send that to her. I'll admit that response was probably pure emotion. No real thought put into it.

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But ! IF you're a average looking dude and have any charm and charisma at all, you can get the friendship back. It'll take time!

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Sorry but if that's the way she's going to react I have no interest in getting the friendship back. I trusted her and it's obvious that trust was misplaced. The way I look at it better to just leave it and move on.

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I don’t think the idea of bringing it up was out of bounds but this came across as desperate for all I read. As mentioned, you should have done it in person while hanging out.

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I know that's probably where I went wrong. I was just too reserved to ask something like that in person to her. From her reaction it was probably the correct decision. I'm sure she could have lost her sh*t if we were hanging out somewhere. Obviously at this point I'll never know if asking out in person would've changed the answer but I'll know for next time.

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Yeah this is a troll, but please keep going. I am curious to see how you contradict yourself more.

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Haha the funny thing is it's completely true. Not only single thing I've said is a troll. We met off a dating site 6 years ago as we both enjoyed golf. Went to a state park on our first date and went to a concert on our second date. I thought we hit it off but at the end of the second date I went in to kiss her and she indicated that she just saw me as a friend but wanted to stay friends.

We ended up golfing together at times as well as working out together (though she couldn't lift heavier weights like I could). We became good friends and were friends for just over 6 years. I felt there was starting to be a division in the last year. She was one of those who got super afraid of COVID and until a few months ago wouldn't even go inside a restaurant or bar. I've only seen her a few times the last 2 years due to the pandemic. Mostly just chatted over the phone and did a few golf outings.

So it's all true. I decided I was ending my years of not having sex this year and that I wanted to be more comfortable physically and sexually around women. I was hoping she would be willing to have sex with me to help both of us on the dating scene but we see the answer to that question.

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I’m a big believer in take your shot with women friends.

I always had tons of friends I enjoy spending time with mostly guy friends.

What I wanted from a women was love which included a combination of partnership, friendship and sex.

When I was single and found a female friend that I got along with and I found attractive I asked her out. On that date I liked to do something to establish I was not interested in a friendship only such as hold her hand or kiss her.

If she was interested good. If not then at least I would find out quickly and move to the next.

I learned at an early age that spending a long time building a relationship with a girl I hoped would turn into more was a waste of time.


To OP: Don’t send emails or texts. Have a Conversation in person.

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Good advice and definitely something I learned today. Women friends will always essentially betray you. Like you said shoot your shot early, hopefully get sex and if not move on.

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You're invisible to the modern woman.

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Hence my desperation and my username. I guess it's time to just go the escort route several times a year.