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re: The Bitterness of Missing Out on Love
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:10 pm to OceanTiger1
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:10 pm to OceanTiger1
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he's had many family members and friends (including 1 I guess about a week ago) try to hook him up, especially with "good women" who are just out of a bad situation
It comes from a good place, but people trying to hook you up is the absolute fricking worst.
Females are the biggest offenders. Introduce you to someone who is 100% not right for you, then when asked why they thought you'd like the woman, you get "Well you were both single...".
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Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:15 pm to Rouge
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the Nazis knew how to take care of this problem
How kind of you. So because I'm allergic to dogs and cats I should be exterminated, just wonderful, lol.
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:20 pm to OceanTiger1
love is a chain around your heart
you're better off running away before it starts
Let me help. The most universal facts about women. They're all crazy and they just want to have fun and be talked to. Quit worrying about how bad it might be. You can either be alone or have a woman with issues.
you're better off running away before it starts
Let me help. The most universal facts about women. They're all crazy and they just want to have fun and be talked to. Quit worrying about how bad it might be. You can either be alone or have a woman with issues.
This post was edited on 2/23/20 at 10:28 pm
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:25 pm to OceanTiger1
If you move out of Louisiana there are tons of women without kids in their late 20s-mid-30s in Texas cities like Houston or Dallas....
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:27 pm to OceanTiger1
Man sack the frick up and go find what you’re looking for
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:28 pm to OceanTiger1
TLRead beginning
It sucks,but don't become a codger, and stay after it.
It sucks,but don't become a codger, and stay after it.
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:32 pm to OceanTiger1
Ill tell you this much man. I got to experience it but it was with the wrong person and that's one of my biggest regrets. Going through a bad break up two day's before you turn in the papers to be married to someone isn't the funnest thing to have happen to your life. Damn near ended my own over it. Life is hard in general and there's no easy way to go about much in it, especially love and relationships.
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:37 pm to OceanTiger1
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I think it's ridiculous that guys like me and him are expected to essentially "save" broken women.
Who the f$&k isn’t broken? Who are you to think you’re any less broken than they are? Everyone is broken, whether you can see it or not. We all have baggage. HS love is fun and all because you have no frame of reference. You go in innocent, come out jaded and wounded. Those wounds stack up, scars on top of scars that get covered by makeup, nice clothes, instagram filters, and lies we tell ourselves. Every single person you meet, no matter how happy and content they seem on the outside has their baggage. They faced lows you cannot fathom, and battled demons you will never meet.
You have to always remain open to new people and new excuses. You should never be looking for some idealized total package. You’re just putting pussy on a pedestal, and real life will never ever measure up. You have to find the broken piece whose jagged edges align with yours. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
This post was edited on 2/23/20 at 10:39 pm
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:38 pm to OceanTiger1
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As the title clearly explains, love is the one aspect (and sadly the most important when you really think about it) of my life that I have absolutely failed at miserably.
Don't feel bad. The wife and I didn't find each other until we were in our early 40's. First marriage for the both of us so we had to go through loooooooooots of bad choices to finally make it to each other. Sometimes the time we have to wait is not just for you to be ready for the other person but it may also be making the other person ready for you.
Everyone always told me it would happen once I gave up looking and that's pretty much what happened. The date with the future Mrs. Bard was pretty much "oh well, it won't work out so I might as well just go to have fun". We've been together for close to a decade now and still feel like newlyweds.
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I've just been messaging a friend of mine who has also struggled with love. He told me he's had many family members and friends (including 1 I guess about a week ago) try to hook him up, especially with "good women" who are just out of a bad situation. He has no interest and I don't blame him.
Going from relationship to relationship is a warning sign. From my own experiences and that of watching others, people need time alone after they get out of relationships, for longer relationships they can need up to a year or so. What many do is go into the next relationship in order to heal from their last one. This is not fair to the new person so people coming out of bad relationships should be a no-go as a rule of thumb. Tell your friends and family members to set you up with someone who has been single for a while and would rather be alone than with the wrong person.
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I went into a rant and told him I think it's ridiculous that guys like me and him are expected to essentially "save" broken women. That we are supposed to date women who are divorced/separated/out of a bad relationship and be the responsible ones. Like where was our fun?
Sad to say but the older you get, the more and more that's going to be what you have to choose from. The wife and I lucked out in that we both had decided from an early age not to "settle" for relationships just to not be alone. Many do not make that choice, instead doubling down by getting married and/or having children with this person they constantly fight with, break up with, get back together with, cheat on, are cheated on, etc. They do this thinking it will somehow magically make the situation better when all it does is amplify what's the foundation of the relationship: the drama.
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It all goes back to one of (if not the biggest) regret of my life. That I never got to experience pure innocent love. I never got to experience the love that many of you got to experience in high school, college or mid 20s. The "fun, no cares in the world, our life is just starting and still ahead of us, we can do anything" type of love. It kills me a little bit each day that I've never had (and probably will never have) that type of love.
Wah. Boo hoo. You sound like me twenty years ago, since that's what I would have said to myself then that's what I am saying to you. Spending a lot of time looking back and regretting what you didn't do is a fricking waste of time and energy. Learn from it, incorporate it into how you change your approach and views going forward, then move on. Leave the past in the past, or as an old friend once told me "don't be dwell-y".
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:42 pm to OceanTiger1
It’s never too late. You can experience pure innocent love at any age. It will happen when you least expect it!
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:43 pm to OceanTiger1
I can tell why you’re single
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:50 pm to OceanTiger1
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Most love in high school/college/mid 20's is like a bad rom com, wouldn't you agree?
Not really. It’s maybe like that for a couple weeks, but every relationship I had turned into real life real f$&king fast.
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Does a girl in high school, college or mid 20's care what you make?
F$&k yeah, they do! In hs, it’s about what your parents do, the car you drive, and what your prospects are. It’s also about social capital you bring to the relationship (popularity). They care deeply about where you may be going in life. They want a man with aspirations and the tools and drive to make them reality.
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Isn't all fantasy based in some reality though?
Not really. Fantasy is based on what we want to be true, not what is. It’s about indulging in an escape from the real world. If it were real, and people wanted it, they wouldn’t have to sell it.
Posted on 2/23/20 at 10:58 pm to OceanTiger1
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I think it's ridiculous that guys like me and him are expected to essentially "save" broken women
Sounds like the people in your life are trying to tell you that your realistic prospects are lower than you think they are. What exactly do you have going for you?
Posted on 2/23/20 at 11:18 pm to kingbob
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Who the f$&k isn’t broken?
Yep. We are all "broken" to some degree in some arena. Just means you don't fit neatly into the categories they want you to. Just loosen up, be you, and life becomes fun again. Nothing is more confident than someone who can be themselves.
Posted on 2/23/20 at 11:44 pm to kingbob
quote:This is such great advice and we’d all do well to remember this more, including and especially me.
Every single person you meet, no matter how happy and content they seem on the outside has their baggage. They faced lows you cannot fathom, and battled demons you will never meet.
Posted on 2/23/20 at 11:52 pm to OceanTiger1
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I could even potentially deal with a woman who's divorced (though she'd have to show me she's learned from it
This a ridiculous statement. People get divorced for all sorts of reasons .
A Woman gets divorced cuz her ex husband cheated on her and she has to prove to you that she learned from that?
Or maybe a woman is divorced cuz her Ex liked to hit her.
You’re putting to broad a category of women into one box. Sure there are crazies that will end up divorced 4 times but just because someone is divorced in their mid 30s doesn’t mean that they are inherently broken.
To be honest, you’ve been alone so long that you will probably make a lot of mistakes in your first relationship (I do believe that you will find at least someone you like enough to date, it’s inevitable). There’s a learning curve that most people go through in their teens and 20s that you will be catching up on. What I’m trying to say is that you won’t be a perfect catch either so you should consider altering your checklist. Nothing wrong with a woman who’s been divorced (once).
Posted on 2/23/20 at 11:53 pm to OceanTiger1
I do miss HS, college and post-college sport fricking, that is just hooking up for the sake of hooking up. The thrill of the hunt, and something new and freaky was so much fun.
What were you asking about again?
What were you asking about again?
Posted on 2/24/20 at 1:14 am to Lawyered
Watch “The Last American Virgin”. That’s your homework.
Posted on 2/24/20 at 1:50 am to OceanTiger1
What’s stopping you from dating someone in their mid 20s and isn’t broken?
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