re: The Bitterness of Missing Out on Love

You’re essentially the same as the guys who break those women, except apparently you’re less attractive.

I think you can experience pure love. I'm not sure you're exact definition of innocence but that may be your hang up.

I’ve got a guy I supervise that is in his late 40’s and sounds about the same but he is so picky. The guy works out a lot ,in good shape for his age but only 5’6”. He only dates women 32 or younger, no thickness at all ( likes them skinny ) and will not have a relationship with any woman that has kids. I told him he is going to die alone if doesn’t stop being so picky

Well, at least you can hunt and fish; or whatever, everyday without someone nagging at you... but I get your point, can’t imagine the last 31 years without my beautiful wife and 3 wonderful kids. It’s a give and take, but I just sit and smile when the house is lit up with all their stories and shenanigans....

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I’ve got a guy I supervise that is in his late 40’s and sounds about the same but he is so picky. The guy works out a lot ,in good shape for his age but only 5’6”. He only dates women 32 or younger, no thickness at all ( likes them skinny ) and will not have a relationship with any woman that has kids. I told him he is going to die alone if doesn’t stop being so picky

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I agree that is too picky. That does sound like me though. I'm 36, 5'7" and I work out regularly now so I'm in decently good shape. Trying to completely get rid of the little beer belly I have now but otherwise I have some definition to my body and I'm not overweight.

I would say I want to date women younger than me though I'm not opposed to dating a woman my age. I actually don't find myself attracted to crazy skinny women. Given I do like women who are in shape and skinny (but I mean who doesn't?) but I don't want a woman so skinny you can see her bones.

With that said, I've gone on dates with women who weren't really skinny. I've even gone on dates with women who were cute but maybe slightly overweight. With that said, I'm not going to date a woman who's a land whale and I don't think that's being too picky.

I also share his stance on not dating a woman who has kids. That's probably the biggest thing that is a deal breaker for me. I could even potentially deal with a woman who's divorced (though she'd have to show me she's learned from it and is actually looking for love and not just looking for a status relationship) but definitely no on kids.

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If I had to give a definition I would say it's pretty much like a first love. It's the type where you become infatuated with each other. It's the type where whatever troubles you have in your life seem to go away when you're with each other. It's the feeling that together you can tackle anything. You haven't been beaten down by the real world yet. You still have eternal hope.

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This is not love.

This is a script to a bad rom com.

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I would also say a love where the woman loves me because of who I am. Not because of my career or how much money I could or would make. She's not worried about kids or image in terms of how our families or anyone views us.

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This is not a real woman.

This is a character from a bad reality show.

A real woman will care how much you make. You will care how much she makes. You will have bills.

You don't really want a woman who doesn't care what her family thinks.

If she doesn't care what people think of her, can you honestly say that you would be ok with it? Are you going to date a woman with a face tattoo?

You sound incredibly immature. Life is complicated. People are complicated. Relationships are complicated.

But you've got start from a point in reality. Not what you're writing.

And what the hell do you bring to this “magical” relationship?

You are in your 30s and have no clue what a real relationship looks like. That what you are describing isn’t real life at all.

This guy has to be trolling us