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Posted on 9/4/17 at 7:03 am to liz18lsu
I'll give you one of mine if you change your mind
Posted on 9/4/17 at 7:11 am to saintforlife1
I'm sure you're both tired but from the sounds of it your wife is working like a mule and is breaking down. She's the first one to work and then has to take care of the kid and cook. Any chance you can get home earlier and at least bring dinner home? Buy her a massage and give her the day off.
Posted on 9/4/17 at 7:15 am to lsusteve1
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This. I have a 23 year old and still have occasional bouts with it from 300 miles away.
Posted on 9/4/17 at 7:39 am to LSUSoulja08
2 is a cakewalk compared to 3 and even 4
Sorry
Sorry
Posted on 9/4/17 at 7:45 am to saintforlife1
They don't. You just get caught up and adjusted.
Posted on 9/4/17 at 7:46 am to saintforlife1
Good news - you are not only a shitty husband but you also suck at parenting.
I guess I'd start by doing the opposite of whatever comes natural to you.
I guess I'd start by doing the opposite of whatever comes natural to you.
Posted on 9/4/17 at 8:29 am to Clark W Griswold
I agree with this, each kid will react differently. Even when I was a kid all my parents had to inform me that I let them down and I was trying to do better because we would get little stars as a reward that was posted on the frig. My brother could care less (same as our youngest).
our oldest liked the stars, but would always pay us lip service and tell us what we wanted to hear.
its a never ending battle. the big key is to agree on the discpline
our oldest liked the stars, but would always pay us lip service and tell us what we wanted to hear.
its a never ending battle. the big key is to agree on the discpline
Posted on 9/4/17 at 8:36 am to saintforlife1
It ends when you drop them off at the recruiting center.
Posted on 9/4/17 at 8:38 am to saintforlife1
What causes the temper tantrums? What is the difference in how either of you want to handle it? Why the arguments, hopefully not in front of the child. Pediatric nurse and mother of three here very interested. Thanks.
Posted on 9/4/17 at 8:45 am to saintforlife1
Don't feed the troll. This two year old will only get smarter and worse by 3.
Beating the shite out of a child is not the answer, but neither is caving. You and the wife need a long talk one of you is probably wrong lol.
I swatted my sons butt twice. Ever.
I found the absolute worst thing I could do to him was nothing. Ignore him. Until I could no longer. Took into a time out. In my room. Turn on my TV and put it on something he hates. The news or golf. Then just sit. He'd sit in the bed and flail. I'd turn up the TV. I also assured him that my capacity to do nothing and watch TV, could surpass his screaming ability.
Beating the shite out of a child is not the answer, but neither is caving. You and the wife need a long talk one of you is probably wrong lol.
I swatted my sons butt twice. Ever.
I found the absolute worst thing I could do to him was nothing. Ignore him. Until I could no longer. Took into a time out. In my room. Turn on my TV and put it on something he hates. The news or golf. Then just sit. He'd sit in the bed and flail. I'd turn up the TV. I also assured him that my capacity to do nothing and watch TV, could surpass his screaming ability.
Posted on 9/4/17 at 8:45 am to saintforlife1
Fix your schedule. Our 2 year old loved daycare, but that's way too long. Ours was asleep every night by 7, dinner was at 5. She slept until 7:30-8 the next morning.
Every kid is different, but your main problem is a tired kid and a tired wife.
Every kid is different, but your main problem is a tired kid and a tired wife.
Posted on 9/4/17 at 8:49 am to Isabelle81
Kind of sounds to me like neither you nor your wife have enough time to let your almost two year old act like an almost two year old. I actually feel sorry for your child. The early years are so critical.
Posted on 9/4/17 at 8:54 am to Isabelle81
Let's just talk about the real problem here: this kid is being a cock blocker and you aren't getting any, right?
Posted on 9/4/17 at 8:59 am to saintforlife1
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but I think sometimes you have to give in and try to have a conversation with the kid,
How the frick do you have "a conversation" with someone that regularly shits themselves? Your word is law. Your wife is right and you sound like a vag. If you keep doing it your way, your kid is going to be a spoiled a-hole named Brayden. Man the frick up.
Posted on 9/4/17 at 9:53 am to saintforlife1
As others have said, you can't have a conversation with a two year old. Quit bucking your wife. Your child needs authority and boundaries so he can feel secure.
Also, what is the point of getting married and having a child if you are going to gone from early morning until late at night?
Also, what is the point of getting married and having a child if you are going to gone from early morning until late at night?
Posted on 9/4/17 at 10:06 am to saintforlife1
OP, I'm going to give you some good parenting advice, that also applies to dealing with people in general.
When a person, even a small person, exhibits extreme behavior, whether it's good or bad... they are seeking your attention.
Now, you might ask yourself, why would a person want my negative attention? That part is actually irrelevant. You will see your kid do this many times in the future. He will let his grades tank, she will date the boy you hate, etc. Your kid will do this to test the limits of your love for him, because they fear abandonment and want reassurance that you will not leave them. So they do things to test that.
So what do you do? The first thing you do is get united with your wife and you talk about this very thing I just told you about. Then discuss the origins of the tantrums. It's about attention (and to a lesser extent, poor communication skills on the part of the child).
Then pick a strategy. If it was me, I would start setting up more time with the kid, structurally, to get more interaction with him. Pre-emptive action to stop the tantrum before it starts. Then I would work on teaching him to communicate what he wants better.
But if you know what starts the tantrums, you will endure them better. Demystifying them to your wife will make this a lot easier.
When a person, even a small person, exhibits extreme behavior, whether it's good or bad... they are seeking your attention.
Now, you might ask yourself, why would a person want my negative attention? That part is actually irrelevant. You will see your kid do this many times in the future. He will let his grades tank, she will date the boy you hate, etc. Your kid will do this to test the limits of your love for him, because they fear abandonment and want reassurance that you will not leave them. So they do things to test that.
So what do you do? The first thing you do is get united with your wife and you talk about this very thing I just told you about. Then discuss the origins of the tantrums. It's about attention (and to a lesser extent, poor communication skills on the part of the child).
Then pick a strategy. If it was me, I would start setting up more time with the kid, structurally, to get more interaction with him. Pre-emptive action to stop the tantrum before it starts. Then I would work on teaching him to communicate what he wants better.
But if you know what starts the tantrums, you will endure them better. Demystifying them to your wife will make this a lot easier.
Posted on 9/4/17 at 10:15 am to StringedInstruments
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StringedInstruments
I'll say this: my first was a well reasoned 2 year old, my second not so much. They are very close in age but the first one just reasoned better.
OP: You need to back your wife up on this, you've said she provides most of the interaction with the kid and there is nothing wrong with being firm. I prefer a firm hand with my kids but I was in your situation, coming home late and leaving early. Consistency is a very big deal with disciplining a child. We have three kids now and haven't been as consistent with my middle kid as we were with the oldest one and it shows. Keep in mind though all kids are different and turn into assholes spontaneously throughout toddler years. You will invariably have to deal with hellacious fits. Stay consistent, back up your wife. The only direct disciplinary advice I'll give though is that I never discipline one of mine without at least TRYING to help them understand why they are in trouble.
Posted on 9/4/17 at 10:24 am to saintforlife1
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We have a 23 month old boy
Just say your son is 2. ffs
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Any tips on how to deal with this type of stress?
Sell the kid.
- Fixes your marriage
- Eliminates an expense
- Creates a sudden influx of cash
This post was edited on 9/4/17 at 10:29 am
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