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Terrible twos - when will it end?
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:39 pm
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:39 pm
We have a 23 month old boy (our first one) that is currently going through terrible temper tantrums almost on a daily basis. Wife and I disagree completely on how to deal with it. It is putting a lot of stress on our marriage. We rarely fought before we had him and now we fight daily.
When will these terrible twos end and when will things get better in terms of behavior with kids? Any tips on how to deal with this type of stress?
When will these terrible twos end and when will things get better in terms of behavior with kids? Any tips on how to deal with this type of stress?
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Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:40 pm to saintforlife1
Just wait until three.. it gets worse.
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:41 pm to saintforlife1
this doesnt sound like it's the child so much as it's lack of communication about how you two want to raise your child
talk with the wife and come up with an agreed upon gameplan and present a unified front
good luck
talk with the wife and come up with an agreed upon gameplan and present a unified front
good luck
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:41 pm to saintforlife1
Three is harder then two.. y'all need to sit down and and come up with a plan and stick to it
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:42 pm to saintforlife1
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Terrible twos - when will it end?
Around 5.
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:42 pm to saintforlife1
Have you tried using violence?
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:43 pm to saintforlife1
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Wife and I disagree completely on how to deal with it.
What is your stance vs her stance on this?
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:44 pm to saintforlife1
Ha.He's not even two yet.
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:45 pm to saintforlife1
3 is worse cuz they can argue more and give you even more attitude. You gotta find a way to get their attention and discipline the shite out of them. Each of mine reacted differently to spanking so it works for some but not all. But you gotta make them know it's not ok and it's not their house. My youngest throws fits for my wife but he knows I don't play so he is an angel. They feed off weakness so if you ignore it and pretend it doesn't bother you it won't get any better. Those kids are persistent. Break them. Earlier the better. If my older kids roll their eyes at me now all I gotta do it look at them sternly and they run to the corner to avoid any yelling.
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:46 pm to saintforlife1
I'm not sure when the kid stops being an a-hole, but you start to tune it out at around 3 years old.
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:47 pm to saintforlife1
threes were way worse for us. Defiance doesn't end, they just learn to communicate and understand your threats as the time goes on. At two, it's like negotiating with a terrorist. You can't. At four, you start to be able to negotiate and reason with them.
Best of luck. We dealt with the terrible twos/threes with Titos and Cabernet. And I feel for you on the marriage front. Kids can be stressful on a marriage.
Best of luck. We dealt with the terrible twos/threes with Titos and Cabernet. And I feel for you on the marriage front. Kids can be stressful on a marriage.
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:48 pm to saintforlife1
another big W for the anti-kids, anti-marriage krewe
what else is new
what else is new
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:50 pm to saintforlife1
Just say two year old.
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:50 pm to Glock17
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Just wait until three.. it gets worse.
Threes were much worse. For my son it actually stopped just last week.
He's 8 years old.
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:51 pm to saintforlife1
Sorry you and your wife are having issues.
First thing I suggest is y'all learning how to communicate more effectively with each other. Stress between y'all two will effect your child's behavior.
Second, like other Posters have stated, wait until three comes. Four is more fun...
Good luck.
First thing I suggest is y'all learning how to communicate more effectively with each other. Stress between y'all two will effect your child's behavior.
Second, like other Posters have stated, wait until three comes. Four is more fun...
Good luck.
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:52 pm to saintforlife1
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Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:52 pm to CaptainsWafer
quote:
Just say two year old.
THIS. Only one who cares about the exact month is maybe the pediatrician.
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:52 pm to LSUSoulja08
quote:
this doesnt sound like it's the child so much as it's lack of communication about how you two want to raise your child
talk with the wife and come up with an agreed upon gameplan and present a unified front
THIS! Kids are like great military leaders. They see a weakness and exploit it.
Get your plan together now.
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:53 pm to lsunurse
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What is your stance vs her stance on this?
She is the strict one, but sometimes I feel unreasonably so. She wants to be unyielding and hold her ground which just makes the meltdowns even worse, but I think sometimes you have to give in and try to have a conversation with the kid, no matter how futile. Wife sometimes starts crying saying she can't handle him and me both and that I just need to follow her lead. Maybe that is what I will end up doing. Just bite my tongue and let her set the tone.
I think one of the issues is she spends the most time with him in the evenings. Both she and I work and I drop him off at daycare in the mornings and don't come home till 7:00-8:00. So she is dealing with his tantrums most evenings after she picks him up from daycare. I chip in on days when I come home early and on the weekends, and that is when we have disagreements on how to deal with bad behavior and the kind of disciplining we want to do. I honestly don't blame her. She is works a full time job as a software developer, cooks for us and takes care of him 75% of the time. I don't know if I have any standing to say I know better than her on how to raise our kid. It's all just incredible frustrating.
This post was edited on 9/3/17 at 10:55 pm
Posted on 9/3/17 at 10:53 pm to rocket31
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another big W for the anti-kids, anti-marriage krewe
what else is new
I couldn't have been more on board with the anti-kid campaign
I was really wrong. There's the hard stuff but there's nothing better in the world.
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