re: Sort of related to Valentine’s Day: Marriage question

my wife is peaceful and caring and hard working. a wife should bring you peace, not war. we disagree often, but we hear each other out. we both are able to admit when we're wrong and try to be less selfish.

my wife's job isn't to make me happy, only i can do that. we've only been married a few years, but not once have i regretted it. sure, it would be nice to smash some strange, but it'll never be worth throwing away your life with your family.

the problem with marriage is that people in general have become more selfish and we have culturally thrown away our respective roles as men and women in order to buy more shite that doesn't make us happy.

Yes, 43 years. Bumpy moments along the way with personal growth the result

Been married 20 years and love it. We don’t have kids so maybe that’s the secret or a happy marriage?

recommend marraige Yes, but

Don’t settle

Don’t rush

Slay as much different pussy as you can when you’re young

If you think you found the one, survey her older family members to verify she has good genes, nothing like marrying the “one” only to find out 5-10 years later that it was a trap

We have way more ups than downs and I don’t regret it one bit.

There are some things I wish she was more into (like hunting and fishing) but she loves LSU and football so all good there.

been married for 37 years and I agree that the ups far outweigh the downs. I also know that a marriage that is centered on honoring God is golden.

quote:

---

I could say the same about basing your entire life on the necessity of partner and kids. My experience is different but not any lesser. There is no right or wrong way; it's to each their own

---

A good majority of the couples I see in therapy are ones that put everything but their partner first. Kids, job, etc.

And then when the dust settled several years later when the kids became more self-sufficient and jobs settled, they just felt like they didn’t know each other anymore. And a lot of the time no longer knew themselves either.

Have to cultivate that relationship garden or it doesn’t grow. But you have to also have that time to take care of yourself.

If she’s a single mom, don’t marry her. That’s fun zone only.

If she’s over the age of 28 and has already been divorced, don’t marry her. You will regret it.

If she has tattoos, don’t marry her. In fact, stay away totally, don’t even fun zone her.

If she smokes. Don’t marry her.

If she takes psych meds of any kind, don’t marry her. Don’t even fun zone her you are playing with fire.

If you are under the age of 30, you should not even be thinking about marriage. You need to build some experience being in relationships to figure out what kind of personality you are best compatible with. Avoid long term relationships/playing house for the easy access poon, no matter how hot she is. Enjoy being a single man and don’t let a woman get the legal hooks in you by signing any kind of contract with her before you’ve gone through a long arse vetting process. When you hit 30 and you have your shite together financially, then begin the vetting process of undamaged girls younger than the age of 28. Preferably 25-28 if you are 30.