re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?

quote:

---

Signs that your wife/GF is cheating

---

Dude, just typing that makes me know you are the biggest pussy on the board.
Sit down with the fricking trash whore and make her open her messages and social platforms. Read them together.
If she says no, then file for divorce

If she's cheating, which she is, she will say No. So dont be a further pussy and not have a plan.

Before you do this, get finances straight from your end!!!! 1 more week isn't gonna hurt you more. But you can circumvent losing tons to that trashy slut you hang with

quote:

---

She will immediately come back with “how dare you look through my phone!!”

---

The OP said wife/gf. In the case of a wife - which is an entirely different standard than a gf/bf, as someone who's been with his girl for over 2 decades, her phone and its contents are as much mine as hers, and vice versa.

A wife/ husband/long time girl/boyfriend who won't let you see their phone is a massive red flag. In the case of anyone with common sense, the mere action of asking to see their conversations and social media means there's already unease - a good spouse with nothing to hide would gladly turn over their phone.

Regardless, I would have major suspicion my spouse is checked out long before I had to take measures like looking through a phone. Rarely is it a legitimate case of, "I never saw it coming,' but usually it's a case of, "I refused to acknowledge that it was coming." There are instances of someone getting drunk far away from home, but in most cases you should've seen it coming.

If my wife is having conversations with men on social media my ears would perk up. There's nothing she would have in common with them to conversate about. Is it cheating? No, but it could absolutely be cheating depending on the direction and subject matter. A wife of a friend of mine was going to Nashville a couple times of each year and come to find out, she was having men buy her drinks all night, every night, days on end. No man is going to continue to buy multiple drinks for a woman if she's not reciprocating with interaction. That can only lead to negative consequences, eventually. A good, honest and faithful spouse doesn't do that, and it forever changed his perception of her when he found out how she behaved outside of his presence (and those of us who knew her, too).

That's the real life version of a woman having conversations with men on social media, but with the added fuel for the fire of alcohol and immediate proximity to one another being present. In the instance of her having men court her and buy her drinks in an anonymous setting, it's absolutely a form of dishonesty and while not physically cheating, it affected his marriage in much the same way, i.e., trust was eroded: Will she do it again? Will she screw up and follow through with the worst if she does? Has she ever done the worst? Why did she behave like that, so out of character?

Those are not questions conducive to a stable, happy marriage.

Tldr: I don't know about particular "signs," but depending on the type of conversation, the quantity, and who it is, it's absolutely a red flag that needs to be addressed. My wife and I didn't make it 20+ years by not communicating, and I'm not a pushover who's going to take disrespect like that (nor will she), so the standard is that's unacceptable in all but the most specific of circumstances.

You can use recentfollow.com and see who she started following recently.

Something may pop out there.

quote:

---

Make an instagram account and use fake pics of a guy from yalls area. Hit her up and start chatting. Ask her to meet for food and drinks when your gone after you have a couple weeks of interaction thru dms. You show up and wait for her. Thats how youll know 100%

---

Some smoke show did this to me a while back. Started chatting with me out of the blue and asking to meet up. I politely declined and told her I was married each time and finally after three attempts she quit. I was convinced this was my wife

Clearly you didn’t read or comprehend my post.

I don't know why some of yall got married. My biggest concern with my wife is if she eats sushi without me.

She don't even have an Instagram account...unless I just don't know about it.

quote:

---

Also look for any games like Wordscapes that have internal messaging. Some people join a "team" that just has them and the other person on it and that's another way to message someone on the slick.

---

That's way too much effort than just using WhatsAp

If I never browsed or picked out unknown male follower on IG and if I didn’t check who’s liking what posts, I would never think anything was wrong.

Basically, remove IG from the equation and I would say our relationship is totally fine, no reason not trust, and she invests weeks at a time of her time to come see me (she’ll come and stay 2-6 week a time). She also buys her own plane tickets and has already bought some Christmas gifts for some family members of mine.

Like I said, No me browsing IG = zero worry, thoughts about cheating, etc.

Perhaps it’s no more than a mental construct made through an anxiety loop.