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re: Siblings hijacking inheritance - how common is this?
Posted on 1/7/19 at 10:00 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
Posted on 1/7/19 at 10:00 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
More than it should.
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Posted on 1/7/19 at 10:19 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
I know someone who this happened to, but there was about 35 million involved. The aunt gave it all to the nephew who helped her all his life. He was not smart at all, but a great guy. He let his brother and sister hijack most of the money away and they hated the aunt.
Posted on 1/7/19 at 11:03 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
Happens all the time i suppose. On my mom's side younger sister made off with the cash and the house. My grandmother had alzheimers (mid 90s) and one time went with my mom to the bank as she was doing some research...my cousins were paying themselves 500 to cut my grandmothers yard. 3000 to go for christmas shopping for her (i remember i was 17 and got a sunbeam iron that year)etc. Aunt got a 800k house and about that in cash....mom and her brother dont lift a finger for the sister. On dads side similar...cousins made out with cash and jewels but....he still talks to them.
Posted on 1/7/19 at 11:11 pm to fallguy_1978
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I could never see me and my siblings screwing each other over like that. My sisters both have a lot more money than my parents though. I don't know wtf happened to me
This sounds almost just like me. My brother and sister both have plenty of money. My parents have a sizable amount, but less then my siblings. I, on the other hand, live paycheck to paycheck and sometimes come up short. No matter what the situation is, there is no way in hell we’ll be letting it come between us. It’s gonna be whatever it says in the will and however my parents wish for it to be. That’ll be that.
Posted on 1/7/19 at 11:53 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
People that complain about inheritance never cease to amaze me. That sense of entitlement is embarrassing to me. Do absolutely nothing to earn it, complain when someone else gets it and a willingness to destroy families by arguing about it. I have already told my mother to give it all to my sibling (assuming I even outlive my mother) because I don’t want it and won’t appreciate it if given to me.
This post was edited on 1/8/19 at 12:01 am
Posted on 1/8/19 at 12:02 am to Pesticide
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No loss really, they hated him. We got lucky and saw an obituary when SIL decided to just do a google search to see what he may be up too. We found the obituary 2 days after he died
We fight it out in court, will is nullified and my wife and SIL get most of the estate. It was awesome
Went looking for an obituary and hire a lawyer to fight in court to get something you did not earn from a person your wife admittedly hated. Wow. That’s interesting. I would hope I would burn anything a person I hated gave me or at least turn it down and say, “no thanks, I was fine before you left this to me and I’ll be fine after.” I am probably in the minority, but this seems so strange to me to want something from someone that I did not earn, even more so from a person that I did not like.
This post was edited on 1/8/19 at 12:06 am
Posted on 1/8/19 at 12:21 am to Pesticide
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You see it differently than us
Clearly I do. If he had left it to me after treating me like garbage I would have told him to go eph himself. If he didn’t leave it to me I would have loved it even more because I wouldn’t want a dang thing from someone like that. To each their own, though. I’ll take what I earn (that’s not very much) and be happy not feeling I owe someone like him anything. I am not trying to judge and certainly not saying I am correct. You very well may see it as getting him back at his death. But to me every time I spent one of those dollars it would be from someone I did not like and did not like me, so it would be unfulfilling. Almost as if I was beholden to him even in death. Not my thing. Again, I am not saying I am right. Just a personal thing for each. Glad your wife got her pop back in the end if that made her happy. Sounds like it was a rough life.
This post was edited on 1/8/19 at 5:46 am
Posted on 1/8/19 at 3:54 am to go ta hell ole miss
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People that complain about inheritance never cease to amaze me. That sense of entitlement is embarrassing to me. Do absolutely nothing to earn it, complain when someone else gets it and a willingness to destroy families by arguing about it.
I my wife’s families’ case, the bitterness wasn’t about the money, it was about the dark side of a sibling manifesting itself. In both cases, if the parents had intended to leave it all to one person, it would have been fine.
I don’t care either way. I’m like you, I prefer to stand on my own 2 feet. There is satisfaction in not having things handed to you.
My mother and I have a good relationship and there’s no one for her to leave her assets to. I’ll just tell her to live it up and spend everything and I’ll support her if she lives too long.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 4:06 am to olgoi khorkhoi
It’s bad and the alleged “expert attorneys” in BR that should be giving good financial and legal advice totally suck.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 4:08 am to go ta hell ole miss
sometimes this money/property has been passed through multiple generations. So saying "they" didn't earn it can be a relative term. What was the intention of the grandparents and great grandparents. These are complicated matters, and not as simple as saying "they didn't earn it".
Posted on 1/8/19 at 4:18 am to olgoi khorkhoi
Pretty sure this kind of stuff happens all the time especially when it's an old relative dying leaving behind a ton of money. Some dumb bitch did similar stuff when my mom's 95 year old uncle died. It's pretty sad that someone would use their family death like this but there are some awful people out there
This post was edited on 1/8/19 at 4:20 am
Posted on 1/8/19 at 4:52 am to olgoi khorkhoi
Heard plenty of stories of shite like this happening. I am glad my family never had to deal with anything like that our family never had that kind of issue. Then again my grandparents never had a significant sum of money when they passed. The property and assets were divided evenly among the children and no one protested or tried to swindle anyone. It is sad when people do shite like this.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 5:05 am to olgoi khorkhoi
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My wife’s mother and uncle got their inheritance hijacked by their sister. The sister lived near her father and as he lay on his deathbed she coaxed him into changing his will.
Happened to us, exactly the same way but with my wife's grandfather. Motherinlaws sis moved in on dad towards his end and became executor of his estate, walked away with over a million, sibs got nothing.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 5:05 am to OMLandshark
You know, after reading about your shite show of a family, suddenly I feel much better about the simple babysitting dispute I’m currently wrapped up in. Thanks!
Posted on 1/8/19 at 5:18 am to keakar
Hard to imagine. I'm really close to my siblings and all of us make way more than our folks did so don't think we'd ever be put in the situation where it would even be an option.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 5:53 am to cable
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These are complicated matters, and not as simple as saying "they didn't earn it".
Agree 100%. And sometimes the sibling or family member that gets it will just run through it or not appreciate it. That would stink. Again, I was not trying to be categorical or judgmental in any way (can seen how it may come across that way). Inheritance and death can be very difficult or relatively easy to handle depending on family. Add in the in-laws and it can get very messy. It’s just the trust fund baby types that amaze me with the entitlement. Perhaps the people that earned it wanted them to have it easy and wanted them to expect it. What do I know (rhetorical question because the answer is most definitely “not much”)?
Posted on 1/8/19 at 6:20 am to olgoi khorkhoi
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I understand a dog-eat-dog mentality, but tradng your family for cash seems like a bridge too far. Is this kind of back-stabbing common among siblings when parents die?
Here's one for you.
My father in law put some land in his sons name to "hide" it a few years back because he thought his farm was going bankrupt. This was done with the understanding that he would get it back after things settled down.
Fast forward years later, the farm was sold and avoided bankruptcy.
Today (you guessed it) he refuses to comply with the previous agreement and will not sign it back over to my FIL.
Hows that for shity?
Posted on 1/8/19 at 6:21 am to Rouge
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Death brings out the best, or much more often the worst, in people
If by death you mean money then I agree
Posted on 1/8/19 at 6:45 am to Wtodd
The quality of a family is revealed immediately following the funeral.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 7:49 am to olgoi khorkhoi
I've seem fighting over inheritances that are 1 percent of what is being discussed here.
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