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Siblings hijacking inheritance - how common is this?

Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:26 pm
Posted by olgoi khorkhoi
priapism survivor
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Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:26 pm
My wife’s mother and uncle got their inheritance hijacked by their sister. The sister lived near her father and as he lay on his deathbed she coaxed him into changing his will. All the while, my mother in law was taking care of their mother who had dementia (and continued to care for her for a couple years after their father’s death). The theiving sister got nearly a million $ in cash and assets and the other two siblings got about 15k each. It seems crazy to me, but both siblings still talk to their sister and visit on holidays as if nothing happened. I’m an only child, but sibling or not, if someone acts this way, they would be dead to me.

On my wife’s father’s side, there are 5 siblings and the only female sibling did her brothers even dirtier. She’s a total loser and her and her spouse and kids lived with her parents when her father died (not in a care-taker role, they were supported by her parents). Her mother had dementia as well, and this witch changed all the locks, hid the will (denies one exists) and took everything. The brothers can’t even visit their mother any more. She’s completely isolated her family and the sick mother from everyone and won’t answer the door if they come to the house.

I understand a dog-eat-dog mentality, but tradng your family for cash seems like a bridge too far. Is this kind of back-stabbing common among siblings when parents die?
This post was edited on 1/7/19 at 6:30 pm
Posted by Scruffy
Kansas City
Member since Jul 2011
72016 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:27 pm to
Who are you people?!

Jesus.

Scruffy is constantly amazed by the threads about family on here.

Posted by Rouge
Floston Paradise
Member since Oct 2004
136793 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:28 pm to
quote:

Siblings hijacking inheritance - how common is this?
all the time

Death brings out the best, or much more often the worst, in people
Posted by Walt OReilly
Poplarville, MS
Member since Oct 2005
124237 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:30 pm to
It’s more common than you think unfortunately

Some POS out there
Posted by Tester1216
South Louisiana
Member since Jul 2018
22149 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:30 pm to
quote:

I understand a dog-eat-dog mentality, but tradng your family for cash seems like a bridge too far. Is this kind of back-stabbing common among siblings when parents die?


This happened with my dad and his siblings but my dad refused to fight them. He said they obviously needed it more and meant more to them.
Posted by fr33manator
Baton Rouge
Member since Oct 2010
123918 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:30 pm to
I’d say I was surprised, but this isn’t new. Siblings have killed each other for land and titles and less since Cain picked up a rock.

History is rife with this sort of behaviour.

Jacob and Esau.hundreds of royals.

Money makes people crazy
Posted by fallguy_1978
Best States #50
Member since Feb 2018
48355 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:31 pm to
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Who are you people?! 

I could never see me and my siblings screwing each other over like that. My sisters both have a lot more money than my parents though. I don't know wtf happened to me
Posted by olgoi khorkhoi
priapism survivor
Member since May 2011
14835 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:33 pm to
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This happened with my dad and his siblings but my dad refused to fight them. He said they obviously needed it more and meant more to them.



No one fought except one of my FIL’s brothers. He spent more on lawyers than he got (maybe 15k), but wanted a moral victory over his batshit sister.
Posted by lsufan_26
Member since Feb 2004
12559 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:33 pm to
Your wife's family seem like winners
Posted by Jim Rockford
Member since May 2011
98128 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:33 pm to
SO's brother walked out with a stamp collection and God knows what else from their parent's house, then hired a lawyer and threated to sue SO (the executrix) for malfeasance or whatever it's called. He managed to drag everything out by a couple of years, and cost everybody a shite ton of money, especially himself. He probably paid that lawyer about $100k out of his own pocket and in the end didn't get anything more than he would have anyway.

BTW the lawyer was a female NYU graduate from one of the biggish NOLA firms and was a Grade A foulmouthed yankee bitch.
This post was edited on 1/7/19 at 6:34 pm
Posted by olgoi khorkhoi
priapism survivor
Member since May 2011
14835 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:35 pm to
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Scruffy is constantly amazed by the threads about family on here.



And I’m amazed you persist in your OT schtick. To each his own, I guess.


And these nutballs aren’t my family. My mother and uncle acted like adults when their parents died.
Posted by MBclass83
Baton Rouge
Member since Oct 2010
9345 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:37 pm to
Depending on the state, you can sue for your portion.
Posted by olgoi khorkhoi
priapism survivor
Member since May 2011
14835 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:38 pm to
quote:

Your wife's family seem like winners



Her parents are some of the best people you’ll ever meet. It’s just these two women that I would’t piss on if they were on fire.
Posted by Tester1216
South Louisiana
Member since Jul 2018
22149 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:40 pm to
The money wasn’t worth the price of the strife it would have caused with his 9 brothers and sisters.

Even though family obviously didn’t mean much to a few of his siblings, it meant a lot to him. In the end, he didn’t need it.
Posted by lsufan_26
Member since Feb 2004
12559 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:41 pm to
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Her parents are some of the best people you’ll ever meet. It’s just these two women that I would’t piss on if they were on fire.

That comment definitely wasn't directed toward the parents, but the two crazy bitches she calls aunts. It's crazy that happened to both of her parents though.
Posted by browl
North of BR
Member since Nov 2017
1571 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:41 pm to
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I’m an only child, but sibling or not, if someone acts this way, they would be dead to me.


I've watched it happen a few times. My brother and I had words then didn't speak for almost a year over my father's guns after he died.

We made a pact to NEVER let something like this get in the way ever again. I encourage others to put blood before greed.
Posted by rpr4695
Member since May 2013
2093 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:46 pm to
quote:

BTW the lawyer was a female NYU graduate from one of the biggish NOLA firms and was a Grade A foulmouthed yankee bitch.



Pics?
Posted by Havoc
Member since Nov 2015
28179 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:46 pm to
You see some ugly shite with that business and with people living longer, despite a diminishing mental and/or physical state, it’s bound to become more frequent.

Posted by OMLandshark
Member since Apr 2009
108098 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:46 pm to
My uncle attempted it. Luckily he was such a fricking shithead my grandmother didn’t fall for it, but unfortunately he still got 1/5 of the estate, when I, my mother, and her other siblings told my grandmother to write him out of the will.

First off he said to my grandfather that he hopes he dies while he had terminal cancer, and then he goes off to Cabo for a week while my grandfather was on his deathbed, and said he wasn’t going to flush money down the drain since he already paid for his tickets. He showed up 10 minutes late for the funeral just getting off the plane in ridiculous casual attire.

Then there’s my grandmother, where he once said during the Thanksgiving Dinner that he was sick of waiting for her to die and he wanted his inheritance now. Needless to say my Mom and my other uncles were ready to brawl with him after that as my grandmother cried and he was no longer welcome to Thanksgiving or Christmas from that day forward.

And after that, he still tried to swindle his mother repeatably for money, but luckily she never went senile and wasn’t able to do it, but still proceeded to contact my Mom and Uncle (the will’s executers) about swindling them. He’s a total piece of shite.
This post was edited on 1/7/19 at 6:49 pm
Posted by keakar
Member since Jan 2017
29882 posts
Posted on 1/7/19 at 6:48 pm to
my BIL is dealing with similar shite right now

his sister got POA and trying to take over the parents money, presumably to keep for herself, and then put parents in a home and then sell the parents house and "presumably" keep that money too since she did all this in secret and was only found out when the dad said something about sister telling him they will have to sell the house and move in a home, all so she will be free from taking care of them. she "claims" its for everyones benefit and they just need to trust she will not cheat them out of any money. but she has not been much part of the family or tried to help care for them at all and has a history of being a total bitch to her siblings

he is trying to undo the POA and get control of the situation but its a HUGE drama filled BS

the dad needs to be in a home but the mom doesnt and neither wants to leave their house. im sad for him to have to deal with shite like that.
This post was edited on 1/7/19 at 6:56 pm
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