re: Separation Anxiety and Depression question.

I really appreciate all the advise and support. It really means a lot and has helped this evening for sure. Going stay at my brothers until I get my daughter back. Gonna sell the house, and be selfish and do what’s best for me and just let time do it’s thing.

Hey man, good luck with all of this. I hope.and pray you get over the anxiety. I have had severe anxiety before and it's not fun, got tell your counselor to give you some xanax incase of bad attacks, it definitely helps. Again good luck man, go out to watch some sporting events, and go fishing. Then bang some 21 year olds when you are ready.

Why did y’all get divorced?

Was it your fault? If so, really work on the aspects of yourself and your life that we’re the cause of the divorce.

When you start to see progress in those areas, you’ll probably start feeling better and better about yourself.

I’ve never been married, but that’s what I do when I’m down because of a breakup.

I got the dreaded “I love you, but I’m not in love with you anymore” line.

Either she was fricking someone or she no longer found me attractive. I’m leaning towards she was fricking someone because I’m pretty fit and have been told that im a decent looking guy. Either way, it’s over and doesn’t matter now.

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Relationships, whether business or personal, rarely work out. In the cases they do, the people typically hate each other and there is some other reason they stay together.

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You sound kind of bitter man. I know plenty of people that have good relationships. It does happen for many.

I am bitter on these things. I've been a lawyer for too long and seen too much interpersonal bullshite.

but are they truly happy or do they just put out the appearance of happiness?

It doesn’t start to go away until after you start dating someone else.

Even then, it can still come and go when you’re lonely. You’re always going to remember the good times, and it will make you sad. What you have to do is focus on all the bullshite that you’re losing too, all the things she didn’t like you doing or gave you grief about, the freedoms you are gaining. You have to learn to appreciate the situation you’re in, embrace it, and decide to make it a change for the better.

It will get better, but it takes time, effort, and learning to love yourself and others again.

For me, my wife and I separated about 8-9 months ago, but things had been really bad for about 9 months prior to that, so emotionally, we’d been broken up for a while. It was really rough on me. I was depressed, hopeless, broke, suicidal, and had to move back in with my parents. However, I forced myself to put on a happy face and put myself out there. I went on a few dates and eventually got a girlfriend that I dated for a few months. Just learning how much easier relationships could be as opposed to what it was like being with her completely changed my outlook. I still feel sad and lonely sometimes, but I am in a far better place now. Looking back, what made me most sad was my dog choosing to stay with her over me.

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Go bang a couple 22 year olds. It always makes me forget about my wife

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What exactly do you think your wife is doing while you’re doing that?

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The problem a lot of people have is that they think a person or wealth will transform their lives into happiness. However, living with (or being in business with) an unhappy person can really mess your life up.

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I was raised in an unhappy marriage. I've seen it first hand. My parents got married because dad knocked mom up at LSU. They were otherwise like oil and water.

Oddly enough, my mom was the materialistic one. Dad didn't give a shite. Pops ended up fairly financially well off. He retired at 55. Mom is a nice person but has struggled a bit financially in life. She's not poor at all. Her tastes just exceed her income.