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Random, out of left field, breakup stories
Posted on 5/16/20 at 6:57 pm
Posted on 5/16/20 at 6:57 pm
Just had a girl I was dating for a month and a half break up with me over FaceTime (not a distance relationship) out of the blue because she “wasn’t feeling it anymore.” No other explanation given although she danced around trying to do so. Things were great outside of the two days before the break up as well. There was genuine chemistry there and she was (seemingly) every bit as into it as I was. Then out of nowhere I get that dropped on me.
Thankfully it was only a month and a half so I wasn’t as invested into it as if it had lasted longer but the randomness of it has just thrown me for a loop. My initial reaction is that there’s another dude or something but no other sign points to that and she’s not really one to go around talking to dudes (this was her first real relationship at age 23) so that would surprise me if it was the case. Just weird and random.
Anyways what stories do you guys have? I’m sure this is going to be tame/lame compared to what y’all throw out but still.
/csb
Thankfully it was only a month and a half so I wasn’t as invested into it as if it had lasted longer but the randomness of it has just thrown me for a loop. My initial reaction is that there’s another dude or something but no other sign points to that and she’s not really one to go around talking to dudes (this was her first real relationship at age 23) so that would surprise me if it was the case. Just weird and random.
Anyways what stories do you guys have? I’m sure this is going to be tame/lame compared to what y’all throw out but still.
/csb
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Posted on 5/16/20 at 6:58 pm to Pedro
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My initial reaction is that there’s another dude or something but no other sign points to that
Posted on 5/16/20 at 6:59 pm to Pedro
Pics?
Posted on 5/16/20 at 6:59 pm to Pedro
Positively, absolutely, 100% there's another dude.
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:00 pm to terd ferguson
Honestly part of me is hoping that is the case because at least this would all make some sense.
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:00 pm to Pedro
Women usually already have a backup qb in place when they yank the starter
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:00 pm to Pedro
100% there's another dude. You were her backup plan.
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:01 pm to Pedro
Sucks, my bro. She just wants to play the field... of dicks.
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:05 pm to Pedro
First real relationship at 23 is a big red flag
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:05 pm to terd ferguson
Just "broke up" with a girl I dated for a month
Just wasn't feeling it
Nobody else involved
Just wasn't feeling it, it started off rocky, moved too fast, wasn't happy with how it started and didn't see it going anywhere
I feel your pain man it sucks to be on the receiving end. One thing I've learned over time is that you can label a relationship all you want "talking/dating/girlfriend".... but I have a timeframe for when people are "ghostable"
Anything short of 2 months you are still in the "ghostable" period
It's happened to me. Date a girl for probably 2 months. Great girl. Stupid rich. Great sex. Didn't really know much about her recent relationships. Great chemistry. Was over at my place all the time.
After a date one Sunday (French quarter day drinking, jazz brunch, etc) she texted me "Sorry if I've been acting a little weird lately I've just had a lot going on".... was the last time I ever saw her and she was back with her ex within a month and now married.
People are fickle, and sometime people don't know what they want. And you are their test drive to see whether they have fully moved on from someone and you are just a test subject. Sometimes people are scared of commitment - they like you and you're great but the thought of being tied down scares them - usually happens at the 1-2 month mark and then can arise again at the 3 year mark. It sucks man but you'll get over it. Don't second guess yourself or who you are because a woman dumped you.
Just wasn't feeling it
Nobody else involved
Just wasn't feeling it, it started off rocky, moved too fast, wasn't happy with how it started and didn't see it going anywhere
I feel your pain man it sucks to be on the receiving end. One thing I've learned over time is that you can label a relationship all you want "talking/dating/girlfriend".... but I have a timeframe for when people are "ghostable"
Anything short of 2 months you are still in the "ghostable" period
It's happened to me. Date a girl for probably 2 months. Great girl. Stupid rich. Great sex. Didn't really know much about her recent relationships. Great chemistry. Was over at my place all the time.
After a date one Sunday (French quarter day drinking, jazz brunch, etc) she texted me "Sorry if I've been acting a little weird lately I've just had a lot going on".... was the last time I ever saw her and she was back with her ex within a month and now married.
People are fickle, and sometime people don't know what they want. And you are their test drive to see whether they have fully moved on from someone and you are just a test subject. Sometimes people are scared of commitment - they like you and you're great but the thought of being tied down scares them - usually happens at the 1-2 month mark and then can arise again at the 3 year mark. It sucks man but you'll get over it. Don't second guess yourself or who you are because a woman dumped you.
This post was edited on 5/16/20 at 7:13 pm
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:07 pm to Delacroix22
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It's happened to me. Date a girl for probably 2 months. Great girl. Stupid rich. Great sex. Didn't really know much about her recent relationships. Great chemistry. Was over at my place all the time.
After a date one Sunday (French quarter day drinking, jazz brunch, etc) she texted me "Sorry if I've been acting a little weird lately I've just had a lot going on".... was the last time I ever saw her and she was back with her ex within a month and now married.
That one is kind of a win. She cucked her guy and rode you for a while. Good work.
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:09 pm to Pedro
I had a girlfriend dump me in my late 20’s for some guy from high school. Guy made no money and wasn’t handsome. It felt jarringly random. I’m sure I’ve broken up with women who felt like it was a random too. At least yours wasn’t long-term
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:09 pm to terd ferguson
quote:
Positively, absolutely, 100% there's another dude.
Not necessarily
OP may be a nice guy but gave off a creepy vibe she couldnt get over after a month of trying
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:09 pm to Pedro
quote:
Then out of nowhere I get that dropped on me.
quote:
Things were great outside of the two days before the break up as well.
quote:
she’s not really one to go around talking to dudes (this was her first real relationship at age 23) so that would surprise me if it was the case.
her first real relationship wasnt 40 days long. shes been in one before, or she still hasnt. shes 23, she likes dudes or how else do you think yall got started? yall were a lock-down hookup. not trying to shite on you, nothing wrong with being a short term fling.
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:10 pm to Delacroix22
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It sucks man but you'll get over it.
Yep. Most people have been dumped before. It seems like a big deal when you are young but it's really not.
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:12 pm to Hogwarts
Yea I initially thought so but she was open with explaining everything and it all made sense. Had a couple guys she was close to being there with that treated her like trash after the last one she said eff it for a while. Hasn’t had great experiences with guys outside of me. Was adopted at birth because dad didn’t want her, adoptive dad wasn’t really involved with her for some reason or another, among other relative men issues. I tried to do everything in my power to treat her like a million bucks. Would drive up to her house (lived in a small community about 30 minutes or so out) at the drop of a dime, would do all the little things right like open doors and such, never argued.
Just wild man. I think it makes it worse that I had no say in anything. Like literally my opinion meant nothing.
I agree with the 2 month time window from the one poster though.
Just wild man. I think it makes it worse that I had no say in anything. Like literally my opinion meant nothing.
I agree with the 2 month time window from the one poster though.
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:12 pm to fallguy_1978
Aw yea I know it’ll pass. I’m just in the trying to make sense of it all stage right now.
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:13 pm to Pedro
OP did not satisfy her
That is ok
That is ok
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:14 pm to Pedro
What happened is she was between you and another guy at the start. Picked you, then realized soon in she wanted the other guy more most likely.
shite happens. Sorry to hear.
shite happens. Sorry to hear.
Posted on 5/16/20 at 7:14 pm to Delacroix22
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Anything short of 2 months you are still in the "ghostable" period
2 months seems short for a ghostable period, thats not even a full season. probably gotta break the 1/3 year barrier these days.
but this is all ok. its just perspective. dont worry about something that doesnt last as long as an oil change.
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