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Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:05 pm to Salmon
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do I tell her "what do you believe?" and if she says she wants to believe in Jesus, then go with it. Which I guess I wouldn't care. But what happens when she asks me about me going to Hell? How do I answer to that?
"Daddy believes that you should be a good person and do kind things for other people, regardless of whether hell exists or not."
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:05 pm to Salmon
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do I tell her "what do you believe?" and if she says she wants to believe in Jesus, then go with it
Short answer..Yes...
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what happens when she asks me about me going to Hell?
Hopefully, have a legitimate talk about why you believe what you believe and how that is ok in todays world..
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:05 pm to Salmon
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But what happens when she asks me about me going to Hell? How do I answer to that?
Dude... she's 6 or 7. She isn't going to be so critical of you and religion.
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:05 pm to Salmon
Momma and Daddy shouldn't force their beliefs on the child. Let her decide what she wants to believe in.
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:07 pm to DrRogers
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Momma and Daddy shouldn't force their beliefs on the child.
yes I get that and all sounds wonderful on paper
but how easy is that in reality?
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:08 pm to Walking the Earth
Next Christmas leave a copy of the Quran on your coffee table 
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:08 pm to Salmon
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nope
I believe you won't...
We live in different times..I was made to clean my plate, go to church, hate things that were different..
My kids think for themselves (to an extent)..I shelter them in ways, but I allow them to at least come to their own conclusions..
ETA: My kids finished eating their Christmas dinner and my dad told them to clean their plates..My oldest, respectfully told him how unhealthy just eating to finish was..
Sorry I DVd this thread...
This post was edited on 12/29/14 at 1:11 pm
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:10 pm to Salmon
my parents are very religious (Catholic) however my wife and I are not.
When they are in town, my parents take our kids to church, talk to them about god and jesus and praying. It doesn't lead to much confusion for our boys, and I am not really bothered by it. For my parents, it isn't coming from a place of judgment but rather sharing what they love with their grandchildren. I get absolutely nothing from going to church or religion but my parents do. Its not a bad thing and if my kids want to go to church as a result, I have no opposition to it.
When they are in town, my parents take our kids to church, talk to them about god and jesus and praying. It doesn't lead to much confusion for our boys, and I am not really bothered by it. For my parents, it isn't coming from a place of judgment but rather sharing what they love with their grandchildren. I get absolutely nothing from going to church or religion but my parents do. Its not a bad thing and if my kids want to go to church as a result, I have no opposition to it.
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:10 pm to DrRogers
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Momma and Daddy shouldn't force their beliefs on the child.
But it's ok for Grandmaw and Grandpaw?
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:10 pm to Salmon
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Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:11 pm to GrammarKnotsi
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but I allow them to at least come to their own conclusions..
this is what I would prefer
I just worry how she will handle it
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:11 pm to Salmon
You're going to influence her one way or another no matter what your beliefs are. Really, the best way is to not make it a black and white issue. If she asks your thoughts, be honest but not condescending. If you don't care if she becomes religious or not, let her go to church a couple of times with her grandparents as long as you trust them to not be domineering.
It's a tricky situation that I've thought a lot about. I personally don't go to church but I don't want to take away the experience from my future kids if they were to want to have religion in their lives.
It's a tricky situation that I've thought a lot about. I personally don't go to church but I don't want to take away the experience from my future kids if they were to want to have religion in their lives.
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:11 pm to 9th life
That is an excellent, tolerant, and generous way to look at things.
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:12 pm to Broski
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Let your daughter make the decision
I agree that this is the way to go if at all possible. Even if she's very young, you can expose her to different beliefs and then let her make up her mind as she gets older.
You don't have go out of your way to read her the Bible or the religious books that your family gets her, but if she brings them to you to read or asks who Jesus is, you can talk to her about it.
You tell her "Some people like MawMaw & PawPaw believe that Jesus was..." and then if you choose to go into your own beliefs, you can even discuss them with her like "But Mommy & I think a little differently."
IMO, you can guide her with your beliefs, but you can't force her to accept them. The most important thing as a parent that you can do is teach her to respect others opinions and beliefs, whether that be religious or other things.
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:12 pm to Salmon
let her be exposed to all sides, and make the decision for herself what she wants to believe in. Just don't force your beliefs on her, nor allow others to force theirs.
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:13 pm to hendersonshands
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"Daddy believes that you should be a good person and do kind things for other people, regardless of whether hell exists or not."
I like this.
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:13 pm to efrad
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Dude... she's 6 or 7. She isn't going to be so critical of you and religion
Kids ask questions about everything, especially philosophical things like life after death.
To the OP, don't let the extended family make her mind for her, but don't get in the way if she takes an interest in religious matters. Explain your thoughts in a way that doesn't sound like you're criticizing the rest of your family.
Also, explaining your beliefs to your family will not stop them from talking about it with your child, I would avoid making an issue out of it.
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:14 pm to 9th life
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When they are in town, my parents take our kids to church, talk to them about god and jesus and praying. It doesn't lead to much confusion for our boys, and I am not really bothered by it. For my parents, it isn't coming from a place of judgment but rather sharing what they love with their grandchildren. I get absolutely nothing from going to church or religion but my parents do. Its not a bad thing and if my kids want to go to church as a result, I have no opposition to it.
yeah I have no problem with my parents taking her to church or whatnot. I'm not offended by religion.
your boys don't ask a lot of questions?
maybe I just worry too much about this
honestly I'm probably more worried about how my parents our going to react when they sit my daughter down to pray to Jesus and she says "who is Jesus?"
Posted on 12/29/14 at 1:14 pm to Green Chili Tiger
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But it's ok for Grandmaw and Grandpaw?
This.
This thread's only going this direction because of the situation for a lot of these posters. If the situation were reversed and non-belief was being taught to a child, it wouldn't be such a non-factor. It'd be a travesty.
In my opinion, children should be exposed to both sides of the situation and decide on their own. This is a valid question, though, and it's one I struggle moving forward towards one day starting a family. I don't want to keep my kids from having the choice I had, but I also don't want to lie to them about what I personally believe.
Just be understanding and honest with her, and she'll make her own choices.
This post was edited on 12/29/14 at 1:15 pm
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