re: Premarriage Advice(asset protection)

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for those of you with prenups, how did the wife initially react to the proposal?

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My wife and I (second marriage for both) have a prenup and it wasn't a point of contention at all. Both of us have considerable family assets, mostly in the form of real estate so it just made sense to protect those assets from unforeseen disaster. Neither of us anticipate encountering problems we can't overcome but there are tons of people who thought likewise and ended up divorced, including both of us in our first marriages. My attorney drew up the prenup, her lawyer reviewed it and suggested a few minor changes and we were set. It cost a few hundred dollars. Surely wish I'd have had one before marrying the first time. Probably would could've saved some of the $100k+ I spent on legal fees keeping my ex from taking it all. There is nothing better than a good woman. And nothing worse than a bad one.

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ITEM #1 Pics of gf

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wont do that. I am Louisiana based just like most of the posters and readers on this site. My word vomit on a computer is more than enough to wake up to and not something worth risking actually effecting my life.

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ITEM #2 Prenup. Don't do it.

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fair take. However your examples of people who I am not is the very reason I started this thread. Those are men who dont need prenups they can take the hit and still live within .01% of the top population.

Why even get married if you're so worried about it not working? Already seems setup for failure

Seriously, you sound like a douche fricking idiot.

Don't reproduce.

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My husband and I have a separate property agreement. It keeps all assets and debts, pre and post marriage, separate unless you decide to take on anything jointly. It works for us. We share household expenses and we never argue about money.

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this is actually something along the lines of what I was interested in. She has mentioned similar interests in the past as well. How do you go about drawing something like that up?

This whole subject is, well, subjective.

That being understood, different potential marriage partners will react in differing ways to the entire process of talking about, negotiating, signing and (to some folks, the most difficult part) living EVERY day with the knowledge that one's spouse has prepared a fiscal and legal defense for the day when the spouse breaks bad and wants to get out of the marriage. (61 word sentence right there folks)

Some folks are fine with it.

Others, not so much. Without knowing your gf (hence the pics request!) no one here can give you specific advice with any degree of certainty.

Caveat: Second (or more ) marriages that are the results of divorce are less prone to these emotional constraints.

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You're not a Rockefeller, she's not Bill Gates' kid.

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It's precisely the people who aren't mega rich who benefit the most from a prenup. The super rich have so many intricate trusts and offshore accounts set up they can weather the storm. It's your small business owners who can be ruined by a failed marriage. Believe it or not, there's a big difference in Rockefeller rich and "small town rich" in more ways that the number of dollars in one's bank account.

You mentioned she is in grad school. When you both get into your careers, will you be making similar money? If not, what's going to be the difference between the two incomes?

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My husband

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Pics?


Wait... I did that wrong.

I bet you have a beard and own a lot of plaid.