re: Prayers needed….any words of encouragement or advice.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Prayers sent.

Amazing story, thank you for sharing. I am sitting here in bed, not knowing what tomorrow holds. Each day seems to get a little better. The emotions are like tidal waves. I am Catholic and went to confession for the first time in over 27 years the other day. I can’t describe, how that felt. I have to attend church, it’s the only comfort I have, other than my kids. I decided to sell our house. The pain is too much to continue to live there. We spent last week in San Antonio, in fact just got home yesterday. I cried leaving San Antonio, didn’t want to come back to Louisiana. I have prayed since this has happened and my heart keeps saying to start over elsewhere. My job can transfer me there and I family there as well. What’s crazy, as I start up the car to leave San Antonio yesterday morning. I turn on the radio and the very first song that comes on is a Jimmy Buffet song “I have found me a home” I listened to the lyrics and the verse that got me was:
“And I have found me a home.
Yes, I have found me a home
And you can have the rest of everything I own
'Cause I have found me a home.”
Sine this happened, I have learned that God truly talks to us and often times we don’t listen. What is crazy is I met a girl over there and I know nothing will come of it. For a brief time, I felt normal again. We had dinner and talked about everything, I guess it was good to have another person listen. Another step in the healing process. As soon as purchase agreement is signed on my current house I will begin the process of relocating to San Antonio. Being here in Louisiana sucked before but now is straight up miserable being here.

Brother, you’ve come to the right place. I doubt we can heal your pain, but we can sure as shite help.

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. I am Catholic and went to confession for the first time in over 27 years the other day.

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Could be the most Catholic thing I’ve ever read

How old are your children? I know you are grieving and difficult living in home you shared with your wife and reminders of her everywhere. My thoughts are regarding your children and a big move away from the things they know, friends, school. Loss of their mother is traumatic then adding moving on top of that. Are they old enough to give any input? Children are resilient but I wouldn't make any rash decisions right now. Seek out support from friends and family. Keep children involved in their routine as much as possible and give them opportunity to talk about their mother and keep dialogue open. Although painful as it may be for you, keep the memory alive of their mother. I Am so sorry for your loss and it's easy to question and fell God has forsaken you. I certainly won't attempt to answer those questions but I agree with you that at my lowest points I have also felt the Lord speaking to me that he is indeed there and take comfort in that.

First, I am sincerely sorry to hear of your loss.

Second, please, please, please, for your own sake and for the sake of your children, accept help when offered and ask for help when needed.

A dear friend recently lost a son to suicide. I offered help, as I'm sure others did, but he clammed up. I kept calling/going by.

He was a mess (understable) who is only recently returning to his old self. He told me he wishes now he had taken me up on my offers to help, but he refused because he didn't want to be a burden.

You are NEVER a burden to those who love you. While God may have allowed your wife to pass, He has prepared the way for you make it through this.

You are about to discover who your true friends are. Lean on them and let them share your burden.

One thing I will caution against is trying to figure out why this has happened. You will likely never know, and any time you spend trying figure it out is time you could/should be spending on your children.

Ask God for help, and it will be sent.

God bless you. I pray that He will dispatch angels of comfort, mercy, strength, hope and love to you and your family to help you through this.

I have no idea what you are going through but if anyone can help you here we will. Keep us posted every couple of days like a journal I think you will get plenty of encouragement and support as you work through this process. I am terribly sorry.

First, I am truly sorry for your loss. The main thing I will tell you is this. And it won't be easy. You are going to have to totally focus on your children and know that they need you to be strong for them. You can't change what just happened. As lost as your are, your children are even more lost. Be strong for them. Focus on God in a positive way. Pray for his guidance and He will help you. Stay strong. May God heal your brokenness.

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am Catholic and went to confession for the first time in over 27 years the other day. I can’t describe, how that felt. I have to attend church, it’s the only comfort I have, other than my kids.

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This is amazing. I pray God continues to heal and guide your family.

After my parents and fiancé died, I went to a really dark place in my life, and eventually God and returning to my Catholic faith saved my life. Continued prayers for you all.