- My Forums
- Tiger Rant
- LSU Recruiting
- SEC Rant
- Saints Talk
- Pelicans Talk
- More Sports Board
- Fantasy Sports
- Golf Board
- Soccer Board
- O-T Lounge
- Tech Board
- Home/Garden Board
- Outdoor Board
- Health/Fitness Board
- Movie/TV Board
- Book Board
- Music Board
- Political Talk
- Money Talk
- Fark Board
- Gaming Board
- Travel Board
- Food/Drink Board
- Ticket Exchange
- TD Help Board
Customize My Forums- View All Forums
- Show Left Links
- Topic Sort Options
- Trending Topics
- Recent Topics
- Active Topics
Started By
Message
O-T advice thread
Posted on 10/29/19 at 1:44 am
Posted on 10/29/19 at 1:44 am
I know this is probably a shot in the dark I’ll get anything but sarcasm but I could use anything right now. So a young lad just split with his girlfriend of two years and well I haven’t really been in this situation before considering she was my first “serious” relationship. I’ve always been one to struggle with self confidence issues and well I just need to hear ways of how I can successfully grow from this. At the end of the day I want to become a better man and I don’t know how to ask that from anybody I know as sad as that sounds. I appreciate it guys, y’all have helped me through a lot in the past.
17
Posted on 10/29/19 at 1:46 am to MasterAbe1
Posted on 10/29/19 at 1:57 am to MasterAbe1
I don’t know the circumstances. But if I had to guess she dumped you..
Don’t look back. Wasting time over her is a terrible waste.
First relationship? Young?\ Get yourself out there. You don't realize that there are women of all types out there that want to be with you.
Start asking women out now. So you get some no’s.BFD. Every no you get brings you closer to a yes
Knowing what I know now I would have “shopped” a lot harder while young. And I would have chosen the “one” a lot more carefully.
TL/ DR. She ain’t the only one with a pussy.
Don’t look back. Wasting time over her is a terrible waste.
First relationship? Young?\ Get yourself out there. You don't realize that there are women of all types out there that want to be with you.
Start asking women out now. So you get some no’s.BFD. Every no you get brings you closer to a yes
Knowing what I know now I would have “shopped” a lot harder while young. And I would have chosen the “one” a lot more carefully.
TL/ DR. She ain’t the only one with a pussy.
This post was edited on 10/29/19 at 5:55 am
Posted on 10/29/19 at 2:08 am to MasterAbe1
quote:
At the end of the day I want to become a better man
That's all you ever need to be focused on, in good times or bad. Success in all aspects will follow if you do that.
It won't heal the heartbreak, but it will put you in a better position moving forward. Over time, the focus you put on your own improvement will overtake whatever lingering anguish you have.
Posted on 10/29/19 at 2:12 am to MasterAbe1
The answer is simple, go bang her friends, all of them.
Posted on 10/29/19 at 5:30 am to MasterAbe1
quote:
I just need to hear ways of how I can successfully grow from this
Post links to her social media, hit the gym, work harder at making more money, ask out quantity before you settle down with quality.
You will find the next "her".
Posted on 10/29/19 at 5:43 am to MasterAbe1
People with self confidence issues tend to be serial monomers, meaning they find a girl who appears to interested in them and latch on because it makes them feel good. Many times these people conform themselves around the girl, changing who they are, doing everything possible to keep her happy. The woman usually likes the attention and the power they have over the man and end up abusing said man by being completely selfish and making things a one way relationship. This is a toxic situation and will NEVER get better. Ground rules on how partners treat each other are set very early in a relationship and if you find yourself with a woman who thinks her man should worship the ground she walks on and doesn't reciprocate the behavior, you need to man up and tell her something or just cut the cord.
Time heals all wounds, but finding several other women to focus on will certainly expedite the process. Right now, it sounds like you don't have any other women to think about so until that is no longer the case, she will still be in your head. Don't jump on the first woman who comes your way, instead play the field, keep your options open, go on several dates and eventually you will find a woman who treats you right and then you can narrow your focus on that one girl and start another relationship. The last thing you need to do is jump in this situation all over again, but at the end of the day, you need to act like this chick doesn't bother you as that will either make her happy that you moved on or she will realize that she fked up in that she left a guy who actually cared about her and treated her well. If she does come crawling back, don't take her back with open arms. Slow play the hell out of it and try your best to rest the ground rules. If she can't handle that, then you dump her and move on.
Time heals all wounds, but finding several other women to focus on will certainly expedite the process. Right now, it sounds like you don't have any other women to think about so until that is no longer the case, she will still be in your head. Don't jump on the first woman who comes your way, instead play the field, keep your options open, go on several dates and eventually you will find a woman who treats you right and then you can narrow your focus on that one girl and start another relationship. The last thing you need to do is jump in this situation all over again, but at the end of the day, you need to act like this chick doesn't bother you as that will either make her happy that you moved on or she will realize that she fked up in that she left a guy who actually cared about her and treated her well. If she does come crawling back, don't take her back with open arms. Slow play the hell out of it and try your best to rest the ground rules. If she can't handle that, then you dump her and move on.
Posted on 10/29/19 at 6:11 am to MasterAbe1
You will never make a woman happy. It’s impossible. Because no matter how great she is, a woman always feels she is not good enough. Sadly, most women look to a man to “complete them” and finally make them happy. But it never lasts and she eventually feels unhappy and starts dreaming of the next thing to meet her needs. Usually, it’s children. But when that falls short - she pines about how she is in a loveless marriage with a man she ignored for her children for the previous two decades. The same man who went out and worked to provide for all of her dreams and desires while only asking for more frequent sex which she did not give him. Then she chooses between divorce and taking half his money or having an extramarital affair and then divorce and taking half his money. Then it becomes his fault that things are akward at every holiday and even his children’s marriages and birth of the grand kids. Then she spends the next two decades trying to teach her granddaughters to find the “right guy” that does not actually exist. Then the circle of life repeats itself.
And here you sit feeling sorry for yourself that you are alone.
Get perspective man.
And here you sit feeling sorry for yourself that you are alone.
Get perspective man.
Posted on 10/29/19 at 6:17 am to SECdragonmaster
quote:
SECdragonmaster
That is equal parts funny and sad. Probably because there is some truth.
Posted on 10/29/19 at 6:38 am to Evil Little Thing
quote:
That is equal parts funny and sad. Probably because there is some truth.
It’s a combination of thoughts from 3 of my friends who are divorced at my age. Fortunately, my wife of 25+ years is great and understands my limitations as I understand hers.
Posted on 10/29/19 at 6:47 am to MasterAbe1
Prayer, devotional reading, and acts of love, especially directed toward those who the world has not loved.
These acts will help you strengthen as a person and escape the chains of sadness and self pity.
The right woman for you is the one who will partake in those acts together, a woman who knows we are all resident aliens in this world. She will know our hearts are restless until they rest in God.
These acts will help you strengthen as a person and escape the chains of sadness and self pity.
The right woman for you is the one who will partake in those acts together, a woman who knows we are all resident aliens in this world. She will know our hearts are restless until they rest in God.
This post was edited on 10/29/19 at 6:50 am
Posted on 10/29/19 at 6:54 am to TulaneLSU
quote:
and acts of love, especially directed toward those who the world has not loved
Does this mean you think the OP should go out and bang some 2's and 3's?
I think he should set his sights on bettering himself and banging girls in his lane.
Posted on 10/29/19 at 6:55 am to MasterAbe1
You certainly came to the right place for some solid social advice. 
Posted on 10/29/19 at 6:55 am to MasterAbe1
Get a face tattoo.
Posted on 10/29/19 at 6:56 am to Hangit
quote:
Does this mean you think the OP should go out and bang some 2's and 3's?
This should be his takeaway from the thread. Posted on 10/29/19 at 6:56 am to MasterAbe1
The old saying
Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
Posted on 10/29/19 at 6:57 am to MasterAbe1
Best way to get over someone is to get on top of someone else
Posted on 10/29/19 at 7:10 am to fr33manator
When I got divorced the song playing was “ How can I get over you when you are under him”.
This post was edited on 10/29/19 at 7:11 am
Posted on 10/29/19 at 7:12 am to MasterAbe1
quote:
So a young lad
quote:
struggle with self confidence
Grindr will fix that right away.
Posted on 10/29/19 at 8:23 am to MasterAbe1
What's wrong with you that you need to be a better man? Is that not something that will happen naturally as you age?
All it takes to be a man is to be one who takes care of their responsibilities, whether with family, friends, or work, while treating others with the respect they are due.
All it takes to be a man is to be one who takes care of their responsibilities, whether with family, friends, or work, while treating others with the respect they are due.
Page 1 of 2
Popular
Back to top
Follow TigerDroppings for LSU Football News