re: My fiancee cheated on me.

Prayers sent. She needs to repent for doing that

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If screwups like the op can convince two women to marry them, what does that say about me? FML

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You’ve gotta keep aiming lower. You’ll get there!

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When I first read this thread, I felt really sorry for OP, like my stomach hurt

Then I read that he started dating this woman while she was pregnant with another man's baby and well...

My advice is too make better life choices and be glad you found out before you made the massive mistake of marrying this woman

and for the love of all the gods, please try and learn from this

there are always signs...you missed a massive one in the very beginning

LEARN FROM THIS

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Same. I do feel for OP regardless.

But 95% of the time it's a situation like this. Huge warning signs from the outset. I hate to judge women with kids outside of relationships, but seeking comfort with a good guy after a shitty relationship and poor choices so often ends in misery. I'm not going all GoldenNugget either. You can and should be a good guy. But you shouldn't pair off with someone who isn't primarily drawn to good guys, or else you'll get totally fricked.

Normal girls aren't pregnant with another dude's kid. Normal girls don't go out regularly to their friend's house and leave you home with their kid. Agree with you, you have to heed the signs.

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To be fair, Im not going to be unfair to her. She made a horrible mistake, and there's probably no fixing "us", but no one deserves to have everything taken from them, no matter how much she has taken from me/our family

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I know you want to be the nice guy, but be prepared that she will try to take everything from you. Very high up on a woman's list of needs is security - emotional, financial, etc. From her perspective, you will be taking that away from her and she will feel justified in doing everything she can to help herself.

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Maybe because you are putting your daughter above yourself. It takes a lot of humility to make yourself vulnerable to someone who betrayed your trust. Whatever you choose (just as what she has already chosen) will directly impact your child's life forever. Kudos for being a man of integrity and stepping up as a father. Regardless of whatever else happens...you are responsible for the well-being of this child. T

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HE IS NOT THE FREAKING FATHER!!!!!

I've got nothing to add that hasn't been already said but good luck.

Document everything. Don't send any agressive texts or shite like that. She may wake up one day and say frick it, he's not seeing his daughter.

frick it call Maury.....

this is where TDs thread formatting is terrible

that detail will be brought up over and over and over again because you have to scroll through 20 pages to see it.

instead of it being highlighted on page 1

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she was fricking some guy in a car in a walmart parking lot

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That’s taking a swan dive in the above ground pool of trashiness...

All kidding aside, sorry that you are going through this. Lawyer up and like previous posters did, she is not the woman you fell in love with and document everything! I have a co worker going through this shite. She’s using their kid as a pawn to control him. Don’t let that be you...