re: Mother-in-law in delivery room

I don't think it's weird, but I didn't want my mom there. I only wanted my husband, and he was there-briefly. He nearly passed out and was shown the door. When our second child was born, he stayed in the waiting room during delivery. Honestly, if I'm suffering, I just want to be left alone. After the birth of both kids, my mom waited a week or two before she came to stay with us so that we had a chance to get settled as a family. .

I was in all my wife’s sections, and didn’t look at shite

I stayed behind the curtain and held my wife’s hand and told her how amazing she was doing and thanked her for giving me these amazing children. It’s called love and support

Not weird

I'm guessing you have a very controlling MIL.

Get a paternity test

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Not weird, probably more common than you would think.

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Very common.

Let me share my story on this subject.

For my first child, my MIL insisted that she be in the delivery room. She was staying within her boundaries until the Doctor decided to clear the room. She then stood by the door and would ask any hospital personnel entering or exiting the room if she could come back in. After about 2 minutes of this, she then began yelling through the door that she wanted to come back in. When they let her back in, she walked to the opposite side of the bed from me and I gave her the “I want to rip your head off” look. A nurse noticed my stare and thankfully escorted her to the other side of the room. My wife was so out of it that she never noticed how much of arse her mother was being, but I remind her of it often.

My first born had my MIL and her husband(Doctor), FIL and his wife(RN), SIL(Doctor), BIL, and myself. It was a 3 ring circus.

The birth of our first child was where I drew the line in the sand with my MIL. Wife had a very turbulent pregnancy and the delivery was in accordance with that history. Risk of complication was high and baby would have to immediately go to NICU for testing and monitoring. There was alot of anxiety and emotion. MIL was supposed to be taking care of the house and dogs. It was like midnight and they gave wife whatever that drug is that is supposed to light the fuse and I intentionally did not text or call, figured I would wait until after the fact to break the news. Well somehow that witch sensed it and showed up at the hospital and barged in the room in the middle of all hell breaking loose and a nurse put her in her place back out to the waiting room. After the baby was born, she tried to come in again and I met her at the door, told her wife was sleeping, to go home and let my dogs out and make sure they had clean water and come back in the morning. That moment set a precedent that has made my life alot easier ever since. She learned that I set the boundaries with my family. Wife was a little pissed at first, felt caught in the middle, but she later came around and thanked me because she knows her mother is a manipulative lunatic and needs boundaries that wife is not always strong enough to enforce. There have been subsequent situations that have all resolved with me just saying how its going to be and if you don't like it, have a nice day. We did not see her for christmas last year because she did not like our conditions. It was great.

ETA: Wife did not want her in there either, but did not want to say anything because she did not want it to be an issue.

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Despite any ups and downs in our relationship, when I get really sick or am really scared, I instinctively want my mom for nurturing and my dad for protection.

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Sounds like your husband is pretty worthless