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Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:16 am to LNCHBOX
Right, but the op says his wife wants her mom in the room. She has made her decision. He is really out of options.
As I said, sorry to op for marital issues.
As I said, sorry to op for marital issues.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:16 am to lsunurse
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The whole topic is
The Wife wants her mother in the delivery room with us for our first kid.
And that isn't the scenario that you described. Yall get so irrational when it comes to having a baby.
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You as her husband need to respect her wishes.
You as his wife need to respect his wishes.
I can play that game too.
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This isn't about your marriage coming first...
That's a shitty attitude to have.
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this is about what she needs the day she is having your child.
I'd bet she needs her husband more than her mom.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:17 am to yellowfin
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They should respect the wishes of the one paying the bill imo
Careful, this is how we get insurance company death panels.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:18 am to LNCHBOX
Why should she respect your wishes but you don't have to respect hers?
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:19 am to SMACKYtheFROG
Expecting a child this year as well. My wife and I already decided it will just be us in the delivery room.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:20 am to Displaced
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Why should she respect your wishes but you don't have to respect hers?
The mom is not in the marriage. If the husband feels strongly enough about it, the marriage should come first. Mom=/=husband.
ETA: Again, this is assuming OP actually feels strongly about it.
This post was edited on 2/26/18 at 8:20 am
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:21 am to LNCHBOX
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And that isn't the scenario that you described.
She wants her mom with her. That isn't gonna change.
Just saying...she has the ultimate say in the delivery room...NOT the husband. So either the husband can just respect her wishes beforehand...or her wishes will be enforced anyways.
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You as his wife need to respect his wishes.
Thankfully I'm not married to an a-hole though. I wouldn't want my mom there but if I did, my husband would respect my wishes....since I'm the one pushing a baby out of my vagina that day.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:22 am to LNCHBOX
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If the husband feels strongly enough about it, the marriage should come first. Mom=/=husband.
On the same hand, if the wife feels strongly enough bout it, he should respect her wishes knowing she may want/need the extra support during a stressful/painful time.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:23 am to lsunurse
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She wants her mom with her. That isn't gonna change.
Says who?
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hankfully I'm not married to an a-hole though.
Oh blah.
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..since I'm the one pushing a baby out of my vagina that day.
Again, typical woman response. The day of your child's birth isn't just about you.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:24 am to Displaced
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On the same hand, if the wife feels strongly enough bout it, he should respect her wishes knowing she may want/need the extra support during a stressful/painful time.
I know you're just trying to argue with me.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:24 am to SMACKYtheFROG
I’ve heard of it before, not that odd. Definitely sounds like one of those situations where your wife is overly attached to her mom and wants her there for comfort.
My ex was like that, and I got the hell out of dodge after a few years.
My ex was like that, and I got the hell out of dodge after a few years.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:26 am to SMACKYtheFROG
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The Wife wants her mother in the delivery room with us for our first kid. Is that weird?
No, no its not. Also, trust me no one cares what you think on that day.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:26 am to LNCHBOX
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On the same hand, if the wife feels strongly enough bout it, he should respect her wishes knowing she may want/need the extra support during a stressful/painful time.
I know you're just trying to argue with me.
He's right though. If they both feel strongly about it, someone's got to give.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:27 am to LNCHBOX
Maybe, but respectfully.... For now.
I don't think that the husband's wishes outrank those of the woman when it comes to childbirth. He can make his wishes known, but ultimately the final say will be the woman's.
But as I've said a few times, the disagreement may point to deeper marital issues.
I don't think that the husband's wishes outrank those of the woman when it comes to childbirth. He can make his wishes known, but ultimately the final say will be the woman's.
But as I've said a few times, the disagreement may point to deeper marital issues.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:27 am to LNCHBOX
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The day of your child's birth isn't just about you.
Just saying...the woman having the baby has the final say. Argue all you want. No delivery room nurse is gonna go against what her patient wants. If it is ok for more than the father to be present during the delivery..she is gonna honor her patient's wishes and let the woman's mother stay. Her priority is to her patient...not the father of the baby. It is great if he is involved...but not necessary.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:27 am to LSUBoo
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someone's got to give.
And like Fin said, it should defer to the one paying the hospital bills.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:29 am to Displaced
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But as I've said a few times, the disagreement may point to deeper marital issues.
This is where it's important to determine if the woman's desire to have her mom there is being fueled by the MIL. My MIL was constantly trying to weasel her way in to the room, even the day of.
If it's truly important to the mom to be, that carries much more weight than if she just has a mom that is trying to insert herself in there.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:29 am to lsunurse
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No delivery room nurse is gonna go against what her patient wants
This isn't the conversation. I've never once said anything else would be the case.
Posted on 2/26/18 at 8:30 am to SMACKYtheFROG
Fathers weren't in the delivery room back when America was great.
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