re: More than 70% of americans cheat at bachelor/bachelorette party

Wife and I drove to the Justice of the Peace in Kenner, listening to "Rockin' Years" by Dolly Parton and Ricky Van Shelton.

There were no bachelor/bachelorette parties, no hooplah, no expensive wedding.

We went and got a hamburger afterwards and couldn't stop smiling. It's the simple things.

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Of course it's cheating. It's a betrayal of trust. And by that time in a relationship you have made the agreement to be faithful; you just haven't formalized it with the State yet.

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Unless i'm missing something, vows are on the wedding day, not before.

"lack of communication between partners"???

Is the Costanza "if someone would have told me that having sex with a stranger at a bachelor/bachelorette party was frowned upon..." Excuse really used?

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Getting a lap dance is cheating? Gtfo with that. That counts per that survey

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Todays lap dances allow you to rub/feel tits as she grinds on you. Would you consider it cheating if your spouse basically jerked someone off?

Isn't the whole point of a Bachelor Party to get one last taste of some strange before getting married?

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Would you consider it cheating if your spouse basically jerked someone off?

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It’s definitely somewhat of a gray area.

If I were to say Bob cheated on his wife with a stripper, most people would not be thinking that Bob received a lap dance (nude or not). They’d be thinking Bob boinked a stripper.

And what if Bob goes and keeps it a secret from his wife but still only receives dances? But why the secrecy?

I am sure the feelings vary spouse to spouse.

There’s also the matter of what Bob was doing there. If it was a once in a decade event where he just ended up there with some buddies, that’s a different situation than it being a frequent hobby of his.

This all comes back to the boundaries people set in their relationships.

To me, a guy getting a lap dance at his bachelor party isn’t cheating. No more than a girl going to see Chippendales for her bachelorette party.

fricking someone else? Absolutely cheating.

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a guy getting a lap dance at his bachelor party isn’t cheating. No more than a girl going to see Chippendales for her bachelorette party.

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There is a lot of gray area in the definition of "getting a lap dance" these days. Lap dance out in the open in the public dancing area is very different than "lap dance" in "VIP." Many strippers will have the guy's dick out of his pants for a "lap dance" for a few extra bucks.