re: Married OTers, if could go back to single, look for wife again. What would you value most?

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NOPE!!!!! There’s nothing in marriage anymore for men… All women are entitled little princesses, and the courts are in their corner.

The women know they have to upper hand, and they know that.

They will use the courts to use your kids against you, and make you pay tons of money

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Not every woman is an awful bitch in a divorce sometimes it can come out fair. Mine did and I must say I don't know why everyone doesn't so it that way because it is much more pleasant to not be assholes to each other and put a child in the middle.

To answer the the OP, someone earlier said peace. That's the top answer, if the person doesn't bring you peace you'll be miserable and the other things don't matter.

I honestly hit the absolute jackpot, I wouldn’t change a thing.

Purity.

Loaded inlaws

Her parents are still together

Smart, beautiful, fun and great tits.


So I would pick the same person I did 38 years ago


I only did a few things right in this life and that was one of them

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if could go back to single, look for wife again. What would you value most?by

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Same thing I did the first time:

1. Christianity. She went to church every Sunday as did her parents and grandparents. We often went to church together even early on in our relationship. Her family was actively involved in the church and she took her faith honestly and seriously. 11 years and 2 kids later and I can count on one hand the number of Sundays we haven’t been in church together.

2. Effortless communication. It never felt like a grind or a one sided effort to talk either about nothing or about something important. She put up with my nonsense and laughed at my stupid jokes and I had no problem listening to her vent about life or about her day.

3. We genuinely enjoyed being around each other. Some nights we’d go out and party, sure, but many nights we were usually more happy just sitting on the couch in peace reading a book or watching a movie and just enjoying each others company and being satisfied to be together. Comfort in peaceful silence is a very important and often overlooked aspect of an early dating relationship IMO.

4. We trusted each other to give each other space and were happy when the other had fun with friends or a hobby. There was never an issue of having to ask for permission to not be together, or answering texts and phone calls about what im doing with my friends or a guilt trip when i wanted to do something without her occasionally.

5. Family life: her parents were still married and seemed like happy normal people. My father-in-law is a great guy and my motherinlaw is an angel. They were fun to be around. Both sets of her grandparents were also married until death.

It helps she was and still is also gorgeous, ridiculously intelligent, and has been my biggest supporter, cheerleader, motivator, and best friend.

6. She liked me for me. Not because I sing like Pavarotti, or because I'm such a hottie. I liked her for her. Not because she's phat like Cindy Crawford. She has got so much to offer.

It’s key to find one that can forgive and forget. Some women remember everything and will use it in every fight. “Remember when you called me crazy and insane those times”. Fights will happen and they pick them a lot. If they can’t move on it will be tough.

Serious answer. You can scrutinize this woman and the family she comes from all you want.

You still have no idea what kind of a woman she will be in 10, 15 or 20 years.
Women can do a 180 on you.

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doesn’t have sex with my friend

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Haha i like how you casually dropped that in there. Made me laugh