Married OTers, if could go back to single, look for wife again. What would you value most?

Sex

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Saunson69

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get out of your car

and cut off your saunson

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I think this is a good thread for the single guys here.

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I think you're trying too hard

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I always feel bad for those guys who marry some clearly very attractive woman but that's all she is. No hobbies outside of shopping/makeup

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Jimmy Soul tried to tell yall

I’m divorced. I thought I had my woman. Since I am looking…honestly, looks have taken a back seat. I can find different types sexy and physically appealing.

The things I value? Loyalty, great communicator, honest, doesn’t have sex with my friend. I want a woman to treat me like a king, and I will reciprocate.

ETA: so I’m probably going to be single forever

Sweet and intelligent.

NOPE!!!!! There’s nothing in marriage anymore for men… All women are entitled little princesses, and the courts are in their corner.

The women know they have to upper hand, and they know that.

They will use the courts to use your kids against you, and make you pay tons of money.

I would try to repeat why I did without screwing it up because by pure luck my dumb arse got it right the first time. We have been married for over thirty years. Here is what I told my son or anyone else that has asked me.
Don’t marry for looks. Looks fade.
Don’t marry for love. That feeling you have when you are first dating isn’t love. True love is built over time.
Look for the least amount of crazy and drama.
Look for the least materialistic.
Look for someone you can respect and will respect you.
Look for someone you have similar religious and political beliefs with.
Look for someone who you think will be a good mother.
Look for someone you can trust with your money.
Look for someone you can actually have a conversation with.

Before you get married have all the right conversations. Do you want kids? What are you beliefs on proper way to discipline kids. What are your goals. Etc.

Don’t take no shite from your wife. You don’t want to become a doormat. But don’t give no shite to your wife either. Don’t cheat. If you want to frick around then don’t get married. Understand that you need to be present in the home and the marriage and then be so, but also make sure she understands that you need your time to hunt, golf, fish, whatever your thing is but makes sure she know that you will find balance and still be present for her when she needs.

Never hit your woman. If she makes you that crazy just leave. Never scream and holler and call names. You can never take that shite back and they never forget it. A cold shoulder and walking away is more effective. But once things have cooled try to patch up and try to never go to bed angry.

Now there are things she needs to make sure to do as well. Marriage is a partnership. It takes both parties working towards the same goal for it to be happy and successful. People don’t really change much. How she is when you are dating is pretty much how she always will be. Same for you. So if she is immediately trying to change you then you probably aren’t the right person for her.

Ive had about 60 bad eggs and maybe 2 good ones. I can only pinpoint the 1 good one i broke up with because i was 19 and thought i wanted to live it up, and i saw a missed spot on her wiping when we were making love one day.

She was always excited to see me, hyped me up, and was genuinely all about being a good gf. FF about 8 years i see her on FB happily married with 3 kids. Stays home and brags about her hubs regularly.

So yea that's what you should go for. Someone who is happy to fill theor gender role, and is happy being someone's someone.

Red flags are girls who bring up or compare you to exes. Nag you about petty stuff ( clothes on the floor by the hamper, cabinet door left.open), who never praise what you do but will let you know about every single thing you dont. Are obsessed with pop culture, insta, and trying to live vicariously though influencers. Would rather ask their chick friends for advice than keep your problems between you and her.

A happy man is one who's appreciated and never has to feel or even think they aren't enough.

Love of blowjobs.