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re: Married, first kid problems
Posted on 10/8/23 at 12:08 am to ODoyleRulez
Posted on 10/8/23 at 12:08 am to ODoyleRulez
quote:
Any help yall have please
Communicate directly with the woman that just popped out a human with half your genetic material.
Be direct and honest. If you can knock her up, you should be able to have an honest conversation with her about yours and her feelings.
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Posted on 10/8/23 at 12:09 am to ODoyleRulez
fricking amazing OP title typo please don’t edit
Posted on 10/8/23 at 12:14 am to HerkFlyer
quote:
My only girl turns two next week.
well the last lullabye,
Such a bittersweet song,
And those lullabye days,
Well they don't last for long,
With the last Parting Glass,
Yeah I'm choking back tears,
'Cause you blink and they're gone,
Only little, so long,
Savor lullabye years.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 12:16 am to ODoyleRulez
quote:
Have a young 7 week old
You can't be serious
Posted on 10/8/23 at 12:23 am to Scruffy
quote:how's that happen when your balls deep from thr back?
It is weird when she kicks me through her stomach during sex.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 12:26 am to SuperSaint
quote:Scruffy likes staring deep into the wife’s eyes.
how's that happen when your balls deep from thr back?
Posted on 10/8/23 at 12:28 am to Scruffy
Are you tall enough to do that?
Posted on 10/8/23 at 12:31 am to ODoyleRulez
She just grew your child inside of her for nine months. She saw her body change in ways that she never imagined. Then she pushed your child out of her body in what was likely the most painful experience of her life. Her body still hasn’t recovered in 7 weeks, and her hormones are all over the place. She isn’t getting nearly enough sleep. (There is a reason the CIA uses sleep deprivation as a torture technique.) If she’s breastfeeding, the baby needs access to her body more or less constantly.
As a woman in a happy marriage who has had 3 children, I’m going to give you some advice, and you can take it or leave it. Please don’t go talk to her about your needs right now. I’m not saying that your needs aren’t important, but she has been pulling so much weight. Don’t give her more. Carry some of that weight for her.
As a woman in a happy marriage who has had 3 children, I’m going to give you some advice, and you can take it or leave it. Please don’t go talk to her about your needs right now. I’m not saying that your needs aren’t important, but she has been pulling so much weight. Don’t give her more. Carry some of that weight for her.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 12:32 am to Scruffy
quote:
Scruffy likes staring deep into the wife’s eyes.
Then have her look over her shoulder. Jesus.
Things younger men don't know... Pregnant pussy is God's way of stopping men from leaving when the woman goes crazy.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 1:03 am to ODoyleRulez
I would suggest do 23andMe to make sure the kid is yours. Might be why the wife is acting funny.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 1:05 am to SuperSaint
quote:
Are you tall enough to do that?
It’s easy to be tall when she is laying flat.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 1:06 am to X123F45
quote:
Things younger men don't know... Pregnant pussy is God's way of stopping men from leaving when the woman goes crazy.
Have to say I am fricking blessed because the wife has not been crazy this pregnancy.
No wild mood swings at all.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 1:18 am to WAR TIGER
No, no, no.
If he's working, and she's not, NO. OP doesn't have boobs, mom does. Keep it simple: Clean bottles or pre-prep bottles before bed, and go to bed. Wake up, go to work.
Everything with a lot of women is a panicked disaster. Don't get used to being ok with it. You'll wake up in nine years, and it'll be the same shite. Be a simp father, and you'll end up with a kid that graduates from a private university, but calls you while you're in Europe to ask which Internet plan to sign up for (real story, for a dad that probably makes 750k before stock.)
I was married to a Latina, who demanded I give her the D maybe two weeks after giving birth.
If he's working, and she's not, NO. OP doesn't have boobs, mom does. Keep it simple: Clean bottles or pre-prep bottles before bed, and go to bed. Wake up, go to work.
Everything with a lot of women is a panicked disaster. Don't get used to being ok with it. You'll wake up in nine years, and it'll be the same shite. Be a simp father, and you'll end up with a kid that graduates from a private university, but calls you while you're in Europe to ask which Internet plan to sign up for (real story, for a dad that probably makes 750k before stock.)
I was married to a Latina, who demanded I give her the D maybe two weeks after giving birth.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 1:32 am to ODoyleRulez
This is normal. You’re both adjusting to being new parents. And she may not feel confident in herself after having a baby.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 2:34 am to ODoyleRulez
Change more diapers.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 3:14 am to SpidermanTUba
There are a handful of times I refused to change my daughter's diapers. When you see the mess, and where it's packed into... I could not just go there with a wipe, I'd feel like a felon. Only happened twice I think.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 3:27 am to SG_Geaux
quote:
She is in new kid mode man. Have a little fricking patience
Exactly this.
Don’t whine about it, she doesn’t feel like taking care of two children right now.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 3:45 am to ODoyleRulez
Is she breastfeeding? If so, they are probably sore from the swelling and her nips may be sore. You should offer to massage them with some cocoa butter. If you need a lesson, I'm sure there are a few experienced volunteers to show you how.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 4:54 am to ODoyleRulez
7 week old and you're upset you're not having sex? Ouch. Let it heal, self-centered.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 5:01 am to ODoyleRulez
Here is my perspective.
I grew up in a family with chaos. Crisis and emotions all the time. I am wired to be independent and when I turned 18- left home and put myself through school on my own terms. I finally thought I was happy.
Then I met my wife and things got even better. My marriage was great for almost a decade with no children. My wife and I did everything together and almost never argued. She was my best friend. I remember those days (even now) very fondly.
Then we had our first child.
Everything changed. Her mood. My mood. Our responsibilities increased. Our freedoms decreased.
Doctors appts. Teething. Ear infections. Did the baby gain weight? Lose weight? Colic.
It was terrible and I can’t think of many good days at that point in my life. But we both stayed committed to each other and to the child we had together. It got a little better each year as we found our groove.
Then we had another child and it was the same thing all
over again but a little worse because we had the older child to deal with as well.
I had many nights (sleepless) remembering how much better my life was without kids. We were responsible but we were able to be impulsive. Once, we were watching TV and a commercial for Atlantic City came on at 9 pm. We both said we had never been so we booked a flight for a few hours later and took a 2 day trip. NONE of that happened after we had kids.
As the years went by, we both matured and realized the things we missed were not that important. The things that were important were the family members in our home.
As a family, we did everything together and I loved every bit of it. My kids are now grown and we miss them terribly. But they are wonderful and responsible young adults who love and respect us.
And I am so glad I did not get my wish to go back to freedom and a lack of responsibility.
Short version? This time in your life sucks and it gets so much better. (As long as you and your wife kill off that selfish beast inside you that wants “time out with your friends”, “girls weekend!”, trips with your buddies to hunt and drink).
It’s not that you can’t do those things - it’s just those can’t be your favorite times. Your favorite times need to be the time with your wife and this wonderful child.
Lay down with your wife and baby today and tell him/her this: (out loud)
“I don’t know what I am doing right now. But I can promise you that I will figure it out as I go. I promise you I love you and your mom more than anyone else in the world right now and that won’t change”.
Then it will get better.
I grew up in a family with chaos. Crisis and emotions all the time. I am wired to be independent and when I turned 18- left home and put myself through school on my own terms. I finally thought I was happy.
Then I met my wife and things got even better. My marriage was great for almost a decade with no children. My wife and I did everything together and almost never argued. She was my best friend. I remember those days (even now) very fondly.
Then we had our first child.
Everything changed. Her mood. My mood. Our responsibilities increased. Our freedoms decreased.
Doctors appts. Teething. Ear infections. Did the baby gain weight? Lose weight? Colic.
It was terrible and I can’t think of many good days at that point in my life. But we both stayed committed to each other and to the child we had together. It got a little better each year as we found our groove.
Then we had another child and it was the same thing all
over again but a little worse because we had the older child to deal with as well.
I had many nights (sleepless) remembering how much better my life was without kids. We were responsible but we were able to be impulsive. Once, we were watching TV and a commercial for Atlantic City came on at 9 pm. We both said we had never been so we booked a flight for a few hours later and took a 2 day trip. NONE of that happened after we had kids.
As the years went by, we both matured and realized the things we missed were not that important. The things that were important were the family members in our home.
As a family, we did everything together and I loved every bit of it. My kids are now grown and we miss them terribly. But they are wonderful and responsible young adults who love and respect us.
And I am so glad I did not get my wish to go back to freedom and a lack of responsibility.
Short version? This time in your life sucks and it gets so much better. (As long as you and your wife kill off that selfish beast inside you that wants “time out with your friends”, “girls weekend!”, trips with your buddies to hunt and drink).
It’s not that you can’t do those things - it’s just those can’t be your favorite times. Your favorite times need to be the time with your wife and this wonderful child.
Lay down with your wife and baby today and tell him/her this: (out loud)
“I don’t know what I am doing right now. But I can promise you that I will figure it out as I go. I promise you I love you and your mom more than anyone else in the world right now and that won’t change”.
Then it will get better.
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