re: Male fatigue

Why do I get the feeling that this is all greatly exaggerated?

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And we were friends.

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Were you though? It sounds like (for him at least) you were professional contacts that had a friendly history.

Again.. there is a difference in how men and women communicate.

maybe she wasn't a bitch

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Were you though? It sounds like (for him at least) you were professional contacts that had a friendly history.

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I know him from school, because we are classmates.

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But I didn’t want to disappoint him because I’m a people pleaser.

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The book will help with this. It'll also help you to raise your younguns with firm internal instincts and boundaries.

I just wouldn't make this a "man" issue, honestly... They do it to each other too- push til they hit a firm wall. It isn't malicious... it's just different.

Holy shite this story could have been 6 sentences and conveyed the exact same tone and message you wanted.

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Because I looked her up.

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Did you look up the yearly budget for the department as well. The fiscal year starts July 1. Maybe their budget was lowered. Guess where an easy budget cuts comes from? Unfilled positions. It also gives them less discretionary spending on unclassified positions.

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I set a clear boundary and he won't leave me alone.

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Did you? You said you responded that “Things were hectic and that you’d reconnect after Thanksgiving.”

Shut up, bitch.

I get why you’d be mad. You’re in an all male forum on TD OT pretty much, so you’re going to get downvoted regardless, but don’t take it personal. Just ask him for the amount you saw. It’s that simple, and what I’d do.

My response:

You have no idea how much easier you have dating. Men like 60% of dating app profiles. Women like 3% of male profiles. I saw a dating app experiment: they created 2 dating app profiles. One was a male model. The other was a blank white screen with sex filled out as female. After 24 hours of creation, the female white screen profile had over 14x as many likes as the male model. You don’t have to do any of the heavy lifting by taking rejection. Most women have never been rejected romantically. Most men have been rejected 200x plus. You don’t have to pay for anything. You get a $7k ring while he gets a $150 ring.

I currently have 35 matches on my dating app Hinge profile. Most are weeks old matches. I want you to guess how many of the 35, I sent the last message to, and they ghosted me verse they sent me the last message and I ghosted them. 34 ghosted me. I ghosted 1. And I’m 6’2”, early 30s, think I’m handsome, fit, my total comp starts with a 2, educated…. And I have 34 of 35 matches ghost me & won’t text back to anything I say… despite they liked my profile originally. I can only imagine how bad it is for an average man. They may get 1 match a month to which zero shot she’ll ever text him back.

I have yet to ever hear a female admit how much exponentially easier they have dating than men. Never heard them. Those who are insanely privileged are usually oblivious to it, until they have to experience the other side.

Ultimately what I’m saying is that you have no idea how much more difficult it is to be a man than a woman. There is a reason male to female trans surgeries 5x the quantity of female to male trans surgeries. For every 1 female to male trans surgery, there are 5 male to female trans surgeries. Why? Because life is easier as a female. Even if they know they’ll never truly be female.