re: Life at 30

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i really wish i could view it like this. ive been wronged and mistreated many times by many people (as have we all), and i have an incessant drive to demonstrate that "I won."

It's unhealthy, but I've had great success with that as my motivation thus far. Hopefully the motivations behind my goals become more wholesome as I get older (I'm 25 now)

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That's kind of what the 20s are for, testing yourself, etc.

You'll get more relaxed and comfortable in your 30s, unless your ultra competitive.

Before I was 30 felt the same way, had a bachelors and masters degree from LSU, working in a shite job, several failed long term relationships .all my friends popping out kids... but I ended up meeting my wife at 28, decided to go to PA school at 29 and moved to DC, had 1st kid at 32.

It all fell into place, just have to be patient....30 is the new 20, you almost have to have an advanced degree to succeed unless you have a skilled Trade.

I feel like I didn’t mature until about 28. I wasn’t a loser. I had a wife, kids, good job, etc but I wasn’t driven.

At 30 I took a leap and bought some property to build my dream house. Now I feel like I’m more motivated and driven than then.

I honestly feel most males don’t mature until they get close to 30. People ask me why their son, son in law, etc “doesn’t get it” and I tell them “bc he’s 25, I didn’t either at that age.”

At 30 I played a role. It was like I was living in a world not of my creation, not truly understanding myself. I had lived abroad and was hiking cycling etc every day, but my career was a mess. I was focusing on having great experiences at the expense of a conventional career. At 50, I was SO freakin grateful I did it differently than my peers. Because life is a journey bro, and your path belongs to you. Don’t worry about expectations, just pursue MEANING in your life. You’ll get more comfortable in your own skin over time and things will make more sense.

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Don’t worry about expectations, just pursue MEANING in your life. You’ll get more comfortable in your own skin over time and things will make more sense.

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Yep. It's not a competition between points A and B. Enjoy the journey, be open to change. A rigid lis of goals is going to be terribly frustrating. Embrace the unexpected, find a passion enjoy the journey. It's all time you never get back

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I ask because I currently am 30 years old and honestly feel like I haven’t achieved much compared to my peers who are the same age. I have a decent life but wonder if I’m far behind in the race. This may be a silly question, but is 30 too young to have a mid-life crisis?

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I have news for you, your peers are not as well off as they portray themselves to be at age 30. Even better news is that you won’t care about comparing yourself to your peers by age 40.

Making six figures, own a 3200 sqft home, wrote a check for my Tahoe new off the lot, wife doesn’t work, have a newborn and no debt. I’ll turn 32 in April

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Making six figures, own a 3200 sqft home, wrote a check for my Tahoe new off the lot, wife doesn’t work, have a newborn and no debt. I’ll turn 32 in April

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I’ll cut your grass for $1000 per month.

Honestly I can’t even begin to explain the last 12 years of my life. It’s been an absolute shite show.

I’m 30 now and things are better and more stable today than ever before. No wife, kids, or mortgage yet. Moving to the mountains next year, which has been my ultimate goal since I was 18.