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Life at 30

Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:09 pm
Posted by SaintlyTiger88
Louisiana
Member since Apr 2013
1984 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:09 pm
I have a question for all of you who are over 30 years old. Go back to when you were exactly 30 years old. What was your life like at that particular age? Were you where you wanted to be in life? Were you in the job/career that you always wanted? Were you married with kids? Were you a home-owner?

I ask because I currently am 30 years old and honestly feel like I haven’t achieved much compared to my peers who are the same age. I have a decent life but wonder if I’m far behind in the race. This may be a silly question, but is 30 too young to have a mid-life crisis?
Posted by stat19
Member since Feb 2011
29350 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:10 pm to
Lots of turmoil.
Posted by castorinho
13623 posts
Member since Nov 2010
82032 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:11 pm to
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compared to my peers
There's your problem
Posted by Havoc
Member since Nov 2015
28407 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:11 pm to
Life is like golf, play your own ball.
Posted by SlowFlowPro
Simple Solutions to Complex Probs
Member since Jan 2004
422585 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:11 pm to
you can hire me as your life coach at $25/hour
Posted by Theboot32
Member since Jan 2016
2435 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:12 pm to
When I was 30 I was single, no kids and in a transition type job

At 35, I'm married, 2 kids, own a house and am in my career type job

shite happens fast
Posted by tiggerthetooth
Big Momma's House
Member since Oct 2010
61272 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:12 pm to
quote:

I ask because I currently am 30 years old and honestly feel like I haven’t achieved much compared to my peers who are the same age.



Stop comparing yourself. Theres ALWAYS someone better. ALWAYS. You'll never be "good enough ".
Posted by theOG
Member since Feb 2010
10508 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:12 pm to
Everyone is different, but I was where I wanted to be when I was 30. Married for three years, had a one year old son. Had just switched from a shitty job out of law school to the job that I wanted (and am still at).

That said, 30 is still young and you have plenty of time to figure shite out.
Posted by TDsngumbo
Alpha Silverfox
Member since Oct 2011
41627 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:13 pm to
Just wait until you turn 31. 30 didn't bother me a bit but 31 came and I went into full on panic mode. Sit back, relax, and get used to constant feeling of inadequacy.

Welcome to your 30's!
Posted by Funky Tide 8
Tittleman's Crest
Member since Feb 2009
52713 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:13 pm to
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Were you in the job/career that you always wanted? Were you married with kids? Were you a home-owner?



I am 30, and I can't check any of those boxes.

But, I try not to base my self-worth on such things. It is hard given the societal pressures, but I have a decent amount going for me outside of those things. I'd say that its natural to start comparing yourself more with your peers, but remember to always go by the beat of your own drum, and that life is a marathon, and happiness is all about perspective.
Posted by rowbear1922
Lake Chuck, LA
Member since Oct 2008
15166 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:13 pm to
quote:

I have a question for all of you who are over 30 years old. Go back to when you were exactly 30 years old. What was your life like at that particular age? Were you where you wanted to be in life? Were you in the job/career that you always wanted? Were you married with kids? Were you a home-owner?

I ask because I currently am 30 years old and honestly feel like I haven’t achieved much compared to my peers who are the same age. I have a decent life but wonder if I’m far behind in the race. This may be a silly question, but is 30 too young to have a mid-life crisis?


I'm 31. It all depends on what you are comparing. Am I where I wanted to be at 8? 12? 16? No to pretty much all of them but I am more than happy with where things have gone.

At each different age, I wanted to be something different when I "grew up". When I first went to college, I thought I'd graduate, get married, wait a few years for kids, then open my own firm by 30. For the most part, I am extremely glad my life did not go as I had "planned".
Posted by momentoftruth87
Member since Oct 2013
71469 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:14 pm to
quote:

Just wait until you turn 31. 30 didn't bother me a bit but 31 came and I went into full on panic mode


Yep. Got an ambulance ride yesterday. Was a wake up call.
Posted by georgia
445
Member since Jan 2007
9109 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:14 pm to
It's called a quarter life crisis. its when you realize that who you thought you would be and who you really are come to blows and you have to adjust your perceptions for your reality. Its a thing. look it up.
Posted by stapuffmarshy
lower 9
Member since Apr 2010
17507 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:16 pm to
I was smoking a 8 ball of crack a day, pimping out hoes and stacking bills.


Just where I saw myself.
Posted by fallguy_1978
Best States #50
Member since Feb 2018
48571 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:16 pm to
I was married with a kid and a house at 30. I'm almost 41 now and it feels like time for a mid life crisis. Bring on the girlfriend, mullet and Corvette.
Posted by Displaced
Member since Dec 2011
32713 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:17 pm to
quote:

compared to my peers who are the same age.

Everyone needs a friend like you to feel better about themselves.
Posted by Oilfieldbiology
Member since Nov 2016
37537 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:18 pm to
Yes I was actually way ahead of where I thought I’d be. But that May say more to my expectations than anything else. Best piece of advice is don’t compare your life to others but compare it to what you want.

If you’re not there, make a plan to get there and stick to it.
Posted by Hope Seternal
parts unknown
Member since Nov 2012
577 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:18 pm to
Never stop learning. Never stop growing. It’s the journey not the destination. Your life can change in an instant, so I don’t thing having rigid standards/expectations is a healthy idea. This is coming from an old fart who was in and out of school until 31.
Posted by TigerNlc
Chocolate City
Member since Jun 2006
32495 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:18 pm to
quote:

I ask because I currently am 30 years old and honestly feel like I haven’t achieved much compared to my peers who are the same age. I have a decent life but wonder if I’m far behind in the race. This may be a silly question, but is 30 too young to have a mid-life crisis?

Don't worry, you will be dead before you know it.
Posted by shel311
McKinney, Texas
Member since Aug 2004
110888 posts
Posted on 1/29/19 at 4:19 pm to
quote:

Go back to when you were exactly 30 years old. What was your life like at that particular age?
When I went to college I told myself I'd be single all the way through. Almost succeeded, but for the last few months, close enough.

After that I told myself I wasn't getting married until I was 30. That worked out well and right at 30 years old I was engaged to be married and married later in the year at age 30.

quote:

Were you where you wanted to be in life?
Mostly, except for:

quote:

Were you in the job/career that you always wanted?
No

quote:

Were you a home-owner?
No, that came at 32.


Just be sure in what you want when it comes to marriage, kids and owning a home. No shame in waiting.

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