re: Kids Calling Parents Sir and Ma'am

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you may think it's being respectful but it actually sounds sarcastic or smartallic

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nope, unless that is the intent of the individual using ma'am or sir, just because we've become accustomed to altering things to suit our comfort, laziness, or apathy level might make it the "norm," but it doesn't make it right, I think it's smart aleck btw, sir

Ill have my future kids and wife respond with "yes governor"

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"Yes Sir.

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for the kids

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yes Daddy

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for the wife

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Young black woman cashier's son (7 years old) was there.

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I gave him a ride around the block.

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I'm not gonna take parenting tips from a lady that let you drive off with her young son.

If I didn't when I was growing up, my old man would remind me in a hurry to say mam and sir, was always taught to respect my elders.

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I have my 3 and 2 year olds call me Sir. For example I tell them to clean their room and they say, "Yes Sir." A friend of mine thinks it's weird and disturbing they say yes Sir to me. She believes they should be saying yes Daddy or yes Dad or something else along those lines. What does the OT think? IMO kids who don't say Sir or ma'am are from trashy families.

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I think your friend is weird.

"Sir" and "Ma'am" are titles of respect. Teaching your children to respect others starts exactly where and when you are doing it.

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I also don't see it as an action demonstrating formality or fear.

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yeah but how do your kids see it?

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This.

And my son will do the same.

Manners maketh man

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If you are beating the arse of a 2 year old that doesn't say yes sir...

My 3 year old will say yes sir when I ask him "yes what?" I call bullshite on a 2 year old already being programmed to respond that way.

at the beach yesterday..a middle aged couple was sitting in the steps to the dunes walkway as we were leaving...the lady was asking all my boys about the waves and if they had fun on the beach etc....they all three said yes mam...I came through after them and she thanked me for raising good quality young men who have respect....does that answer your question OP?

mine have been taught from a young age that is the proper way to address any adult.

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One of mine tried to test me when she was a teenager, after a couple whippings she figured it was better to do it my way.

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You're fricked in the head if you give "whippings" to your teenage daughter. I hope you realize that.