re: In your younger days, how shy or bold were you about asking a girl out?

I had no clue how to talk to girls in high school. I also was very shy around women at the time and definitely afraid of rejection. I look back now and know I let aome prime opportunities slip away. I got over it in college and became quite bold about approaching random women. Once I didn't care if I got rejected, I rarely did.

My friend at the time had a philosophy go talk prettiest girl and the work your way down until you find a yes. It worked for him. I was a little more reserved in my taste.

It's funny because I've asked a few women what makes them avoid and distance themselves from certain men whether in dating or other social settings, and the characteristics they listed about the men who they reject / avoid were that they are generally:

-boring / uninteresting as people
-creepy and hardlegger-ish
-cheesy and unfunny in their sense of humor
-not particularly intelligent or well read
-too needy and dependent
-always begging for attention
-always gossiping and being nosey

And I'm not talking about women with multiple divorces or the low IQ childless cat lady type women who said these things... it was relatively normal ones.

A lot of times those men were probably the kind of kids who got picked on in school and/or were teachers' pets and tattle tales.

Plus if you come across early on in your communications that when texting with her you expect immediate responses every time and that somehow it is the highlight of your day, women will assume you're the type to become easily jealous and controlling later on.

I think most men who exhibit those traits listed above know deep down that's the reason they get avoided, given the cold shoulder, and receive generally flaky and uninterested but also polite rejections from women.

At some point women will get bored with the same monotonous dialogue and unfunny jokes coupled with a lack of having anything interesting to discuss and they move on due to sheer boredom...

Life is too short to spend it associating with boring people...

I was never shy about asking girls out. I got rejected a lot. That rejection taught me how to project confidence in myself that paid off later with girls and in my employment.

Shooters shoot

Terrified.

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42 years old.
Never asked a woman out in my life.

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If she isn't attracted to you then you're wasting your time. No woman ever changed her mind about a man being attractive because he asked her out. You either are attractive to them, or you are not. If she is attracted to you she'll find a way to let you know. Learning this was a major turning point for me when I was younger.

When I was in the military and we’d go out to bars, I’d intentionally ask the hottest girl to dance. They were usually left alone because most guys were intimidated to talk to them.

I didn’t gaf.

It varied a lot depending on the circumstances like,

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In a big city, a guy can ask out a ton of girls, just playing the numbers. In smaller towns, word would get out and you'd start being viewed as a weirdo LOL

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but I eventually got it dialed in pretty well to being bold in most cases because women love confidence, they mostly either are going to like you or not, and you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

"I may not look like much, but I've been drinking milk"