re: I'm angry that my sister is dead.

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I'm never gonna see or talk to or hear her sing the Beatles anymore.

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This may not be true, CT. What if Religion/Spirituality is true, and when you take your last breath, you awaken in a Reality ('Heaven') wherein you see your Sister, and all who have ever touched your life. What if, you realize that "Life is but a dream"...God's Dream, and that you were an actor, in a temporary role, refining your skills to take up even more challenging roles. You Sister, and all of us as well.

If you believe the above, or even if you cannot or will not discount the possibility therein, that belief can and will change how you Feel. What you believe, affects how your feel.

Not preaching, just pointing out a possibility for healing. This is war. All is fair in love and war.

Best wishes.

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ColdTurkey

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Prayers for you. Just remember sis and all the times you had together.

God Bless

Sorry let me know and I'll give you my contact info. I was out of pocket a bit today with internet techs.

Get a trainer and run every day

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dont know how to miss her less or cope.

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I’m not sure you would want to miss her less, because that would mean you no longer have her memories.

You are grieving now, and that doesn’t last forever. But hopefully you’ll always miss her, because if not then you’ll have lost the love. It just won’t hurt so bad then.

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I don't get how people with chronic insomnia deal with it at all. This shite is horrible.

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March'20-Aug'20 was awful. No sleep. Lost so much weight. Went through a really tough time at work. Lost 2 grandparents.

You grieve in your own way. There is no right or wrong way. Pain is pain. We don't control our feelings, only how we express them.

Absolutely seek help. Begin with a counselor and see where it goes. You may end up needing to go to a doctor or psychiatrist.

Mental shite can be a real issue. Chemicals in the brain can react different ways and no matter how sound mind you are, you can’t stop it. Therapy or meds may be needed to get back on track. You’ll never believe it’s a real issue until you experience it, then you know damn well it ain’t no joke.

It's okay to be angry. It's okay to be whatever.

Grief is gonna hit you in all sorts of ways. It's gonna make you laugh, cry, scream. It's gonna have you mixed up 6 ways from Sunday.

That's okay.

It's a big pile of suck. And it hurts. It's a rough rocky beach and there's no easy way to walk it.

But others are walking their own path as well. Let it out man. Find whatever outlet gives you any sort of relief (real relief, don't get lost in the bottle) and pursue that.

My heart goes out to you man

I lost my Mom and my little Sister 2 months apart 2 years ago. I know those feelings well.
I would never try and tell anyone how to cope.. After several months, I decided to plant on my back patio Pink Roses for my Mom and Red Roses for my Sis, their favorite colors. Now almost every day I see them both. It helps me still. God Bless

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Only time can heal the pain caused by the loss of a loved one.

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When my wife lost her father unexpectedly, she sought help, first from a priest at our church, then from a mental health professional. She was stuck in the anger phase of grief. Eventually, she was able to move past it, but I'm not sure she ever really healed, even to this day. It's my opinion that time doesn't really heal you, it just helps you cope. The pain is still there, but you learn to deal with it, one awful day at a time.