re: Im 40 and losing interest in alot of things

A lot of that is age. Not only does your body change with a slowing metabolism (which usually means weight gain, and dissatisfaction with that can express itself as a general loss of interest), but your tastes in hobbies can change as well (no one seems to talk about that). For some men, it can be low-T, that's simple enough to fix. For others, it may be that "mid-life crisis". Both of these are natural.

The not feeling motivated part can be a bit of a vicious circle. You don't feel motivated so you don't try to get involved with new things which might interest you so you stay feeling unmotivated so you don't try to get involved, etc.

How physically active are you? How un/healthy are you? Have you been to a doctor lately to have just a routine checkup? If so, what did the blood tests say? If not, go. It may be as simple as some testosterone.

I'm in my mid-50s and have been feeling that way, on and off, for the last few years. Something about the last year or so has made it almost soul-crushing at times. I tried a few things, but what's worked to really get the pep back in my step was getting back to the gym. As cliche as it sounds, getting some sort of regular physical activity really does help. Guys are built to be very physically active, that's why we have larger muscle mass, denser muscles and denser bones than women.

The hard part, at least for me, was getting a routine down where it could fit into my schedule. The wife works out of town a lot and don't have kids, so the key for me was making myself go often enough for it to become part of my routine (generally, people need to do something for 2 weeks for it to feel like a part of their routine).

Being married and having kids can cause men to not get as much exercise as we need (doing honey-dos can be physical exertion, but it can be a bit too random), so it may just be that you need to set aside time for that specifically. If the wife and kids want to join, great! But if they don't, you shouldn't let that deter you.

Good luck!

It could be depression

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Male syndrome. You hit a career wall and want to give it up but can’t because people rely on you and don’t want to be a failure so you go into default robot mode

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I'm almost 47 and you certainly get to a point where most days feel like Groundhog's Day.

Wake up, get dressed, look in the mirror, notice a few more greys and think only 17 more years of doing this shite

I’m 44 and I’ve lost interest in a lot things.

Going out- lost interest ten years ago.

Sports- outside of horse racing I don’t care 1/3 as much

But I have really become interested in other things have read more in the last five or six years than I did the previous 25 or 30 years.

And of course I have my wife and kids which is all a man needs

Wtf is going on with this board today? Must be the holidays.

Get in the gym

Bet 20% more than you have on an NFL game this weekend. You’ll care again.

You're in the middle of it now. I think the road looks long both in front of you and behind you. Just know that some things will get better. Don't give up. Find someone to talk to, maybe it needs to be a professional or maybe an old buddy you can honestly talk with.

I am a man of faith, though I am sure it may not look that way here at times I would suggest you find a church if you don't have one already. And if you do more if you find one, see if you can get involved with a group that does something to help out around the church or in the community. Anything that will give you a purpose outside of the things you feel bogged down in.

Those are just my thoughts. Good luck my man.

It’s very much the norm, at least for me.

I barely keep up with sports after having kids and pushing age 50.

I’m 64. Feel like about 45. But I’ve lost interest in pro sports quite a bit. I still loved college sports until the portal and NIL came about. I’m pretty much a stay at home guy though. Quitting drinking helped my energy level quite a bit.. I recommend it to those still dtlrink more than they should.