re: If you could go back and spend time with someone you lost

My dad passed on ten years ago, suicide, and I wouldn't want to spend time with him, just ask him why he bailed.

Realistically, my uncle who passed away. Old bookie, super cool guy. Best stories ever. I learned so much from him. Was at the LSU @ Tenn when he dies. Missed visiting him by a few weeks.

I was coming on to post something OT-ish like "My parents, they both died a year before I was born." but you all are actually behaving here so I'll say my lovely ten years' gone sister.

Lost one of my best friends summer of Soph. year @ LSU. I wish I could go back and do several things differently. He's in a better place now but I miss the living frick out of the guy..gone too soon.

Sorry to hear of your loss. Be thankful for the time you did have to spend with them. All of my grandparents died when I was real young. I would love to hang out with just one any one of them today.

my mother died when i was 12, so it'd be her, though my paternal grandfather died when my father was very young, so it would be neat to meet him ...

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Who would it be and what would u do?

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First one that comes to mind is my mom. She died when I was 5 and I really don't have any solid memories of her. That was always hard growing up...not just not having what all my buddies took for granted, but hearing stories about how much she doted on me and loved me and knowing that I could not really reciprocate that because I had no memories of my own.

When that REALLY got to be hard to think about was when I had my two boys. Here I was spending tons of time with them, making "memories" and feeling their love for me...and knowing that until they got to a certain age at least, if something happened to me, they'd never remember any of it. When they were young I'd often times feel myself get depressed about it...just the worry of what would happen if. When they past that age, it was a bit of a milestone for me.

As for what I'd do...nothing special really. I'd want her to know what my life was like...how our lives changed when she was gone. That it had been ok...that I'm married and happy and a father.

There are other family members that I'd love another chance to visit with, but she'd be the first stop for sure.

My maternal grandfather. I was 3 when he died. He was an immigrant from Greece. I would love to hear the stories of Ellis Island, his service in military and making his way in America.

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just ask him why he bailed

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Dick move, IMO

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