re: If you are friends with a couple and she just told you she's cheating

Would you tell her if he was?

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Aren't you a swinger?

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This is correct

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stuff was allowed in the swinging communities

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I don't know all of the bi-laws

Why WOULDN'T you say something? The wife telling you she's cheating is her way of getting you to do her dirty work.

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her way of getting you to do her dirty work

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Times are hard
You're afraid to pay the fee
So you find yourself somebody
Who can do the job for free
When you need a bit of lovin'
'Cause your man is out of town
That's the time you get me runnin'
And you know I'll be around

I'm a fool to do your dirty work
Oh yeah
I don't wanna do your dirty work
No more
I'm a fool to do your dirty work
Oh yeah

If you don’t tell him and he finds out you knew, he might hold that against you. If you do tell him, she will hold that against you. So, it’s really up to you which friendship matters more. If I were in your shoes, I would tell him. I would want to know if my wife was cheating on me. It would be pretty humiliating to have a spouse run around behind my back while other people knew.

I say I don’t want to hear any more and mind my own business like grown people should.

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If you a friends with a couple and she just told you she's cheating

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My first question would be why are you telling me? Ever stop to think that maybe she told you so you’d do her dirty work for her and tell her husband? Truth of the matter is that it’s none of your business to get in the middle of it. If she feels guilty and wants her husband to know, then she needs to sack up and tell him her damn self.

“Treat others how you want to be treated”

The answer is in this statement

depends on which friends and whether I want my friend to wind up divorced or not. that's a tough call, especially without highly specific info.

Nothing good can come from getting involved. That's how motherfrickers end up shot. You ain't never seen Cops where Cletus and Jolene are fighting and then they both turn on someone trying to help defuse the situation?