re: I Come to the OT for some help today.

I'm going through the exact same thing. Its tough going home after work in the evenings. Some days are worse than others it seems. During the week I watch really interesting documentaries to keep my mind off of it. That seems to help a lot for me. I just bought a nice 4 wheeler. On the weekends I go riding at ATV parks in Louisiana and Mississippi. Ive made lots of new friends doing this. Well, good luck. I hope you find something that works for you.

What's the deets of your divorce? Why does no one give the whole story.

Come on guys, we want the whole thing, not just the tip.

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I'm going thru a very difficult time in my life right now. (wife left me, some other stuff going on).

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Beta problems

You've come to the wrong place

Your boy Pecker cares and is here to offer some bro therapy. How old are you?

Change your life.

Seriously.

Pick a place you always thought was a cool photo, story, etc. and go.

do it tomorrow if possible. Just go for a week. experience the world for a minute. relax your mind. See none of this really matters.

Dude you aren't even 40, you have plenty of slaying days ahead of you.

This is a blessing. Think about all the times that bih didn't put out or give you a beej.

Think of all the 25-29 yr old's who WILL.

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However, my wife and I separated, and I found out later that she was having an affair. Really crushed me for a couple of months. I kept myself busy with work, friends, and tried not to dwell on the difficulty itself. I also spent a lot of time praying and that was where I gained a lot of peace, from God.

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She basically said she doesn't love me anymore.

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This is one of the hardest things to here in life. It's worst than hearing I'm bored so I screwed a dude or I was drunk. You feel like you have let yourself down and are a failure since you did something to make her just simply stop loving you.

Let me tell you this. No matter what happened, you can't think this was something you did. Relationships are both ways. If you wanna reflect on the past, think about some of the things both of you could of done differently. Use a therapist if need be for this. Figure out all the small little details you and her overlooked. If you are dead set on continuing your marriage, let her know of the small details that you just didn't notice and see what she says.. if you don't want to work it out, and trust me after facing the demons of the past, more than a few people realize the disaster or dependant relationship they were in and decide it's best to keep her gone. Use that to decide how to move forward. Sometimes it takes the other person saying something before you realize that you too was actually miserable and going through the motions.

Whatever you do, establish a relationship with yourself (no pun intended though you will be jerking it more) and learn to enjoy the many blessings around you.


I know TL:DR