re: How to deal with a friend-stealing ex?

Your “friends” are fricking your ex

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Ever since I broke it off, she’s been hitting them up nonstop and obviously leaving me out of the plans. She did it while I was on vacation last week and repeatedly sent me snapchats of her with them. This past weekend two of my better guy friends pregamed at her place and went to bars without even telling me. 

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This should flatter you and make you more confident. You broke up with this girl and she's doing everything she can to make you jealous and get you riled up. You're on her mind all the time man. Your "friends" are just pawns in her game.

If this was a girl you had real feelings for then you have good reasons to be angry. But if she was just a fling or nothing real was going to come of it, then let your bros smash her and let it go. She’s doing this to make you jealous and hateful. Go frick one of her friends. Better yet, frick her mom.

Congrats on dating a girl that wants to be 'one of the guys'. Take it as a lesson learned and move on.

Definition of Beta, bro. You ought to send them a snapchat of you banging they're moms, to redeem yourself

Don't listen to anyone advising to react, compete, or defend yourself in any way.

Keep your head up, your mouth shut, and let nature take its course. Had this happen and was the best house cleaning of "friends" I could have ever hoped for. When the dust cleared I knew who my real friends were and got a good look at what fair weather friends really look like. The most important thing is to never react or say a thing... just stay focused on your own life and business. This is a good thing,... let it happen... then move on a smarter and wiser man.


Oh...just occurred that you don't want be too quick to write a few of them off...if this is from spite you are dealing with an emotionally/mentally unstable woman and that's a "fight" better left on the drawing board... ..no way to "win" if you have to lower yourself into the trash they're in. You may see a few friends disappear for a while but also may be surprised when a some start coming back around feeling like fools, and showing you a little more respect for being the wiser in the way you handled this. I had long, successful career, not so much as successful with my "choices" of women. But, in the long run, I sleep well having learned early on to take the high road, keep my dignity in the eyes of my peers, which trumps a lifetime of stooping to the low road of mud slingers, back stabbers, and crazy women....

I can PROMISE, no matter how bad it may look for a while...the truth about the character of others will eventually be exposed...and those who show self-restraint, discipline, a refusal to even defend themselves, and the dignity of walking away from childish, trashy, shitty, conflicts of egos and insecurities will eventually stand a little taller in the eyes of anyone who really natters and any friends worth having.

Obviously, you need to start hitting in her friends and any ex gfs that your buddies have. You'll get under their skin real quick.

Obviously, she was banging them while still dating you.

Here's an idea: move on.

Crappy friends