How should parents deal with a fat kid?

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Big boy doesn’t give a shite about anything but chili cheese fries and cookie dough

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But really if all his siblings are older and in shape, he’ll probably have that 13-14 year old growth spurt and stretch out a bit and won’t be so fat

Put his fat arse in every sport available.

Mine is 13 and is about to go play baseball all afternoon in 105 degree heat.

Mom needs to quit buying crap to keep at home, buy healthy food and limit eating out/picking up. That limits his choices without limiting his access to food.

Preparing him to be an offensive lineman in high school and college

Good question, but it's hard to help from outside the family unit.

My stepson, his wife, and two girls (10,5) are all overweight. The adults do keto on the regular, but don't lose weight because they drink beer (hello carbs) on the weekend.

It's annoying to try to feed them when they visit because we eat a balanced Mediterranean diet and don't want to have fat heavy meals, especially if they're just going to grab a bunch of beer after dinner. (I am a fan of beer, so that's not the problem)

When the girls are bored, the first thing their parents ask is: are you hungry? And their pantry is stocked with junk food bins that are at kid level.

The girls have been bored alot during the pandemic. Their mom was dreading their doctor visits last week, because she'd been told to curb their eating last year. 5 year old weighs 65lbs as opposed to her 33lb cousin. It's sad.

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I’ve got big fat 12yo nephew.

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Tell your “nephew” (son) to back away from the table and keep his hands where you can see them.

He is showing that he lacks self-control, he’s got to be made to learn it.

He needs to have structure & hard goals, the scale is going to either be his friend or his enemy.

Obesity is just self-harming using a fork rather than with a knife.

Good luck, it’s an epidemic in the US.

Allowing your child to get fat (barring any health conditions) is child abuse, imo.

You are setting them up for a multitude of health issues, self-esteem issues, social issues, etc. Also, it’s a positive-feedback cycle. The fatter they get, the more problems they have, the sadder they get, the more they eat to cope.

I saw it on social media all the time. Parents feeding their toddler unlimited amounts of junk food, making their toddler fat. Poor kid’s pancreas is gonna be shot by the time she’s 13. It’s absolutely disgusting and sad.

Take him to do some physical activity with you, that is about all you can do. He isn't your child and it isn't your household so you're kind of stuck wanting to help but can't overstep.