re: How old is too old to look through your kid’s phone?

If you can't trust your kid and his/her smart phone, don't buy them one.

If I grew up in today's world and my parents were the same they would tell me that as long as they pay for it they can do whatever they want with it.

But I would think 16 or 17ish might be an age to start respecting their privacy, however; it all depends on them. If you can't trust them then.. Well, you pay for the phone so you have the right to see if your kid is engaging in behavior that could get them in serious trouble.

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How old is too old to look through your kid’s phone?

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What does the parent's age have to do with anything?

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I pay for my 23 year old daughter, she is a successful engineer.

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Then why does she need you to pay for her phone?

We told our kids that as long as we're paying for it, it's ours. We don't charge them rent on the phone but they're welcome to spend the $1200 for the new Iphone and get a plan and pay it if they want. I have a 17yr old and a 14yr old. The only time we've (really my wife) gone through their phone is if they're acting 'off'. Meaning depressed or irritated and acting irrationally.

I don't go through their phones because I already know whats there. There's a certain point where I had to tell them that if they can't hide their tracks, then they don't deserve to look at porn. I told them to imagine their mom's face when she found it and to be responsible.

I know I'm not going to keep them wholesome, but sometimes their ignorance frightens me. Other than that, I really can't stand the whole youth online thing because it's idiotic and a complete waste of time. Snap, Insta, Tictok are all idiot wastelands. As is Facebook except for the marketplace.

until they are in college.

friends' 15 yo son left his phone on the table. friend picks it up for a spot check and finds the little girl friend had sent him pics of various.....ummmmm...pics. One included a coke bottle.

The kid and family are very educated/successful/moral etc. Friend immediately went into shock and realized all the legal issues by simply checking the phone. He immediately got with the wife and they consulted her parents. Sometimes you may find things that are unpleasant and could actually sting you!

All end well with the son realizing he needed to focus on school and getting to college.

Funny side note, the story came up over the adults drinking whisky at Scout Camp

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Then why does she need you to pay for her phone?

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First. She doesnt, she also doenst need Christmas money, or me to pay for dinner when we go out together, or for me to grab a tank of gas for her while she prepares to leave. There is no need to be obtuse, we all know a phone added under a family plan is almost free.

I'd say 35 is too old.

Once you get older than that your not going to understand the kid's texts anyway.

dont lie, we know your only doing it hoping to get in on that teacher sex