How often do you clean your family member’s grave?

Every time I visit

Whenever they complain.

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How often do you clean your family member’s grave?

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Whenever it needs it. Go visit them and check on it occasionally.

my family members are in a mausoleum. So, no real cleaning. I do bring flowers and sit and talk to them. Kind of like you see folks in the movies do.

This all saints day I went with my grandpa to visit various family members’ graves. He told stories of his dad re-covering the graves with dirt and other tasks they did each year. I had no idea these things weren’t automatically taken care of by the cemetery.

Why? Are they going to complain to management?

My family had an uncle that was killed in World War II and buried in Europe. For a long time (pre-internet) we didn't know where, just that he died fighting in Germany at the very end of the war and they buried him somewhere with his brothers in arms. We later found out he was buried in a military cemetery in the Netherlands.

It turns out this town in the Netherlands where the US military cemetery is located assigns a resident of the town to take care of a specific grave and if you go over there to visit the grave of a family member you can meet this person who takes care of your grave. Some random Dutch woman cleaned my uncle's grave and put flowers on it for over 30 years. She never knew him obviously. Every grave has a personal caretaker and it is a great honor that they take very seriously. Those WWII cemeteries are hallowed ground to them. Pretty cool.

This is why I will be cremated. Seeing those little cemeteries that end up across from a Dollar General is the most horrifying thing ever.

May you live your eternal life looking at poopy diapers thrown out the window of the local dollar store.

Been awhile, need to go by and check on my father's side. His parents, him, and my brother. My mother's parents are in a mausoleum, and she donated her body to science. I'll be cremated.