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re: How do you handle a mentor/hero letting you down?
Posted on 3/31/18 at 1:23 am to vuvuzela
Posted on 3/31/18 at 1:23 am to vuvuzela
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9/10 responses here will be vitriolic spew from folks who have built up defenses by neglecting anything which contains emotional depth.
That being said, it's tough. I had a mentor, they were actually family, who made a decision that really destroyed a family. It hurt me to the core, and I have just now started to heal from it.
I suppose for me it allowed me to see that if this person could fall so mightily, so could I. It has forced me to realize that my flesh (Christian term for the Id) can control me if I let it, and it will take me to bad places. I must combat it with good and with what I believe to be the Holy Spirit (the subconscious which little kids basically live in).
In the end Grace is needed for all of us, Grace with one another, Grace from God, Grace covers a multitude of sins. Forgive them as quickly as you can, as they are just a human being like you and I.
Solid.
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Posted on 3/31/18 at 8:22 am to JabarkusRussell
This was a question during a recent interview. I just told them I don't have a mentor. They looked at me like I was stupid.
That was followed by a question from a woman asking what I do with my emotions. I wanted to look at her like she was stupid and say, "I'm not a woman", but I told her I don't get emotional.
Still waiting on a call back
Mentors are people too, and people are not infallible. They are gonna frick up from time to time
That was followed by a question from a woman asking what I do with my emotions. I wanted to look at her like she was stupid and say, "I'm not a woman", but I told her I don't get emotional.
Still waiting on a call back
Mentors are people too, and people are not infallible. They are gonna frick up from time to time
Posted on 3/31/18 at 8:58 am to JabarkusRussell
quote:Stormy is going do do what Stormy is going to do.
Recently I had a relationship with someone who was a real role model and someone I held on a pedastal end. I do what I do for a living because of this person.
PS: Congrats on the sects for pay.
Posted on 3/31/18 at 9:06 am to JabarkusRussell
Everyone's shite stinks.
Be thankful for the time and good guidance you received.
Be thankful for the time and good guidance you received.
Posted on 3/31/18 at 9:21 am to JabarkusRussell
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Anyone have similar experiences and if so, how did you overcome it?
Ask those who follow religious zealots or TV evangelists. They have plenty of experience in this
Posted on 3/31/18 at 9:27 am to JabarkusRussell
Posted on 3/31/18 at 9:36 am to JabarkusRussell
Without any more details I can only offer the following.
You should live a life with the goal of what you set. My goal is not of this world but the next. I try to live that way, I don't always succeed due to concupiscence but I pick myself up each time and try again.
I have several people who I look up to and are likely similar to me what this person is or was for you. They are not Gods though and while I look up to them and try to emulate them, I do not hang my success/happiness/whatever you want to call it on them. That is on me.
My advice is forgiveness, more self reliance, and moving forward. Now if you are where you are because of them and you are miserable in what you are doing, maybe it is time to re-evaluate your initial choice.
You should live a life with the goal of what you set. My goal is not of this world but the next. I try to live that way, I don't always succeed due to concupiscence but I pick myself up each time and try again.
I have several people who I look up to and are likely similar to me what this person is or was for you. They are not Gods though and while I look up to them and try to emulate them, I do not hang my success/happiness/whatever you want to call it on them. That is on me.
My advice is forgiveness, more self reliance, and moving forward. Now if you are where you are because of them and you are miserable in what you are doing, maybe it is time to re-evaluate your initial choice.
Posted on 3/31/18 at 9:37 am to JabarkusRussell
Well step one wouldn’t be to post it on a fricking message board. So now we’re back to you letting him down.
Posted on 4/2/18 at 10:15 pm to Hammertime
quote:
This was a question during a recent interview. I just told them I don't have a mentor. They looked at me like I was stupid. That was followed by a question from a woman asking what I do with my emotions. I wanted to look at her like she was stupid and say, "I'm not a woman", but I told her I don't get emotional. Still waiting on a call back Mentors are people too, and people are not infallible. They are gonna frick up from time to time
what the hell was this cuck interview for?
Posted on 4/2/18 at 10:19 pm to JabarkusRussell
Posted on 4/2/18 at 10:30 pm to Tuscaloosa
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Move on. Whatever he did almost certainly isn’t awful enough to wipe away all the good that he’s done for you or truth he’s spoken into your life.
Unless he banged his wife.
Posted on 4/2/18 at 10:34 pm to JabarkusRussell
quote:
Anyone have similar experiences and if so, how did you overcome it?
Don’t put them on a pedestal. They’re just a human being, The same thing happens when people in a church start looking at the preacher instead of God. Many people have done that and lost faith or really struggled as a result.
Posted on 4/2/18 at 10:41 pm to Mike da Tigah
Have sex with his wife
Posted on 4/2/18 at 10:41 pm to JabarkusRussell
Somewhat.... I learned from it and vowed to be better at what I do and better to my employees than he was. I suggest you do the same
Posted on 4/2/18 at 11:06 pm to JabarkusRussell
Theres a saying "never meet your heroes". Partly why I try to only look up to roman generals and jim croce.
Posted on 4/2/18 at 11:22 pm to JabarkusRussell
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how did you overcome it?
Offer to meet for dinner at Sonic
Posted on 4/2/18 at 11:37 pm to JabarkusRussell
Since you asked....
I’ve learned to expect less from people.
Also being much more careful over who I remain friends with. Have also realized that the smoother someone talks, the more likely it is they are compensating and/or lying about things. It’s usually the quiet and humble guys that make the best friends/mentors.
I am also protecting myself by cutting people out of my life that diminish my happiness. Whether they are truly bad people or not isn’t really the point. If they aren’t a good fit for you, that is reason enough to cut them out.
I’ve learned to expect less from people.
Also being much more careful over who I remain friends with. Have also realized that the smoother someone talks, the more likely it is they are compensating and/or lying about things. It’s usually the quiet and humble guys that make the best friends/mentors.
I am also protecting myself by cutting people out of my life that diminish my happiness. Whether they are truly bad people or not isn’t really the point. If they aren’t a good fit for you, that is reason enough to cut them out.
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