re: How do you baws split expenses with the wife?

Have one checking account. All paychecks go in. All expenses come out.

We each have an Amex Bluebird card and we put $200per month on each. Those cards are our fun money IDGAF what you do with it cards.

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I don't give a shite what she spends it on.

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Even though we have separate accounts...we always let the other know if we are making purchases over say $300 and discuss it(as a courtesy to one another and also to make sure we aren't derailing from goals we are trying to reach).

Ask your wife what she would like.




Do that.

The general rule in LA is that marital funds are subject to equitable distribution. When a separation takes place, each gets party gets 50% of the shared property and each shares 50% of the shared debt. What you bring into the marriage is your separate property and stays with you when the marriage ends, unless there is some evidence or a presumption that you made a gift to the marriage. Hence, why lawyers like seeing this when alimony and asset dispersion is pre-negotiated.

A general rule of thumb is that the money you brought into the marriage and kept in your own account raises the presumption that it is your separate property. If your spouse produces a letter or email where you said you were holding the money for a marital purpose, the presumption is defeated; this is marital money. Money put in a joint account raises the presumption that it is marital. A court should (and usually does) require the spouse to present some evidence to support a claim that it is separate property.

We pool our money together, but We have three checking accounts. One for bills and main expenses and we each have our own spending money accounts. As for the chores, we share those too. The quicker stuff gets done, the quicker we can do the stuff we really want to do.

Separate accounts. As long as she can cover one of the two tuitions/kid's expenses, that's all I care about.

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The general rule in LA is that marital funds are subject to equitable distribution. When a separation takes place, each gets party gets 50% of the shared property and each shares 50% of the shared debt. What you bring into the marriage is your separate property and stays with you when the marriage ends, unless there is some evidence or a presumption that you made a gift to the marriage. Hence, why lawyers like seeing this when alimony and asset dispersion is pre-negotiated. A general rule of thumb is that the money you brought into the marriage and kept in your own account raises the presumption that it is your separate property. If your spouse produces a letter or email where you said you were holding the money for a marital purpose, the presumption is defeated; this is marital money. Money put in a joint account raises the presumption that it is marital. A court should (and usually does) require the spouse to present some evidence to support a claim that it is separate property.

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This is true, but 95% of people who get married have very little in the way of assets prior to marriage. By all means, keep your money that you had prior to the marriage in a separate account, but it really is of no detriment to put all the money you make after the marriage into a joint account.

Additionally, if you have separate accounts, then get married and keep those same separate accounts, you're still comingleing your money. The premarital funds and posmarital funds are gong into the same two accounts.

I guess you could and your spouse could maintain 4 separate accounts if you're that concerned

My wife doesn't work. She has no income.

So we take it out in trade.

I make 100% of the income and get 100% of the grief.
It is the fate of those born with a penis.

Wife and I just had this discussion tonight.

Essentially we pay all bills then disperse $$$ to savings and finally each of us get an equal allotment of play money. Leftovers go towards big events like travel and/or house upgrades

I make a good income but this is her first year out earning me. She is a Chemical Engineer