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re: Have women bitten off more than they can chew w/(family courts/marriage/divorce)
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:34 am to SlowFlowPro
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:34 am to SlowFlowPro
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I will never, NEVER understand this.
You know what? It's her car, she pays for it. I'll just make sure the paint stays healthy.
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Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:35 am to burger bearcat
Hell, Some in their thirty's still don't have a real job and live at home with their parents.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:35 am to tigerbandpiccolo
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That doesn’t mean I don’t know how to cook. I make breadwinner money and I cook 5 nights/week. But I also enjoy cooking so it’s not a burden. I don’t think my breadwinner friends who don’t like to cook are bad wives—their families somehow survive. In fact, most of their husbands like to cook and do as such. But I guess complementing your partner and not assigning typical gender roles to every category is bad.
Anybody can cook if they want to make an effort. If they don’t want to make the effort you have your answer.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:36 am to Odysseus32
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:36 am to SlowFlowPro
I agree with you 1000% SFP. We’ve come a long way since 2005.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:37 am to SlowFlowPro
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That's kind of the "have they bitten off more than they can chew" issue.
Lots of guys (esp on here due in part to sample skewing) do lots of "women work" as well as having proper jobs. There is a large population of educated-urban women who think that they had this binary choice and since they got a "real job" they literally just can't do any of the other stuff. Then you have male partners (or options) who work AND cook AND do laundry, etc. At a certain point the guy goes "the frick?"
Why would that guy want to take the financial and emotional risk of marriage and children with THAT sort of woman? That's where the stereotype/meme developed.
I think a lot of it has to do with the "have it all" feminism women are preached when younger. It turns out that it's not reality for 99% of women. Women in high-earning careers will never have the time to maintain that career and have a family/children if they want to remain in those careers. If you're a woman, is your mid-manager career a worthy prize in place of marriage children? You'll have less money to spend on that nice hand bag, or a few less vacations. Life will be less Instagram worthy, but you might have a more fulfilling life in your later years.
The other part is we no longer live in a world where a single-income is going to cut it for 99% of the population. If you live in a major city you simply cannot have a single-income household. I think women haven't adjusted their expectations of men to reflect the modern era, and I don't think men have adjusted theirs either.
Many millennials grew up in dual-income households, but the old gender role expectations were still largely present, but women have now moved beyond just secretary roles and are now more prevalent in all areas of career/education than ever in history.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:40 am to burger bearcat
I was in a 4.5 year relationship. I was constantly pressured to propose to this person. Was constantly being sent rings everyday. I proposed to her and 3 months later she came home and said “I don’t want to marry you”
The very next night she’s at the club and a week later she’s on a dating app while still living in my house. It opened my eyes to modern day women. They have no consequences for their actions. On top of that she kept asking to stay longer in my house because she didn’t have anywhere to go. Moral of the story is, it’s gonna take someone very very special for me to even consider marriage now. I think they want a wedding. I don’t think they want marriage, big difference
The very next night she’s at the club and a week later she’s on a dating app while still living in my house. It opened my eyes to modern day women. They have no consequences for their actions. On top of that she kept asking to stay longer in my house because she didn’t have anywhere to go. Moral of the story is, it’s gonna take someone very very special for me to even consider marriage now. I think they want a wedding. I don’t think they want marriage, big difference
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:41 am to t00f
So true. Growing up, my dad was the cook. My mom could cook but she also went to night school and then worked longer hours than my dad. He got off at 3:30-4 so he could get dinner going and ready by the time she got home.
I didn’t really learn how to cook WELL until after I had kids. I knew how to make basic dishes and a few special things before. Now I actually enjoy making big meals—it does take effort but I don’t knock anyone who simply doesn’t enjoy it. There are plenty of weeknights that it’s not as enjoyable after long days. Which is why I love my crock pot meals and the always easy Taco night. And also why I use chick fil a catering for my job—those points handle the occasional week night where I just don’t feel like cooking or we have 87 kid’s activities and are running around all eve.
I didn’t really learn how to cook WELL until after I had kids. I knew how to make basic dishes and a few special things before. Now I actually enjoy making big meals—it does take effort but I don’t knock anyone who simply doesn’t enjoy it. There are plenty of weeknights that it’s not as enjoyable after long days. Which is why I love my crock pot meals and the always easy Taco night. And also why I use chick fil a catering for my job—those points handle the occasional week night where I just don’t feel like cooking or we have 87 kid’s activities and are running around all eve.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:41 am to burger bearcat
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Right. Alot of them must thing men want a "career woman". And are completely out of touch. Men want a woman who is going to take care of the house and the kids, give them respect, not get fat, and have regular sex. That's pretty much it.
This is ridiculous. Is this the 1960s? Not working gives too much time for idle minds, which can lead to much worse stuff to deal with
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:42 am to tiggerthetooth
It’s killing women.
I imagine the number of women who lost out on family life to chase a marketing job cubicle in a high rise because the former is antiquated and regressive is going to be a genuinely sad saga of my generation.
I imagine the number of women who lost out on family life to chase a marketing job cubicle in a high rise because the former is antiquated and regressive is going to be a genuinely sad saga of my generation.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:43 am to TigerOnTheMountain
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A buddy of mine has been paying child support for the last three years and over the course of the last six months, he’s been overpaying as a result of an error made by the female caseworker. He overpaid to the tune of about 5k and you know what the state told him? Whoopsies. There’s nothing we can do to get your money back.
Yeah, there is something that can be done alright…I wouldn’t be paying the next 5 grand in child support owed until we are all squared up again, at which point I would resume my regularly scheduled monthly payments
And if the ex didn’t agree to that, then we would be going back to court
This post was edited on 1/27/23 at 7:44 am
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:43 am to tiggerthetooth
Solid post—100% agreed.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:43 am to wadewilson
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You know what? It's her car, she pays for it. I'll just make sure the paint stays healthy.
It's not just my wife. Pretty much every woman I've ever known does this. One of my closest friends had literally 3-4 inches of shite on her passenger seat floor area one time.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:45 am to burger bearcat
I blame Seinfeld.
I figured i could get a new hot piece of arse every episode. Run them off, and at the end laugh about it with my friends.
I kinda did this for a few years.. don’t recommend
I figured i could get a new hot piece of arse every episode. Run them off, and at the end laugh about it with my friends.
I kinda did this for a few years.. don’t recommend
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:46 am to burger bearcat
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the girl I know is nearing the end of her biological clock,
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:46 am to tiggerthetooth
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I think a lot of it has to do with the "have it all" feminism women are preached when younger. It turns out that it's not reality for 99% of women.
Agreed.
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The other part is we no longer live in a world where a single-income is going to cut it for 99% of the population. If you live in a major city you simply cannot have a single-income household. I think women haven't adjusted their expectations of men to reflect the modern era, and I don't think men have adjusted theirs either.
I don't disagree with the last sentence. I think growing up in an area where it's socially acceptable/expected for men to cook has also skewed my perception of "typical" male behavior. I say they've compensated by cooking, but forget all the podcasts I listen to where guys can only order Uber Eats when I say that.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:47 am to wadewilson
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Go spend some time in divorce court and grow up a bit.
Marriage isn't worth it unless the woman makes more money.
Sorry it didn't work out for you.
You have found a good place with like minded people to blame your problems on others.
You chose to get married.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:48 am to Whodat28
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they want a wedding. I don’t think they want marriage, big difference
Facts.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:48 am to Warfox
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SNS, but there are still plenty of family-oriented women out there. You just have to know where to look.
Yeah, another country. They have all been Americanized to believe they get their cake and can eat it too.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 7:48 am to Pettifogger
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It’s killing women.
I imagine the number of women who lost out on family life to chase a marketing job cubicle in a high rise because the former is antiquated and regressive is going to be a genuinely sad saga of my generation.
There will 100% be a closing of the gap of life expectancy over the next 20-30 years
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