re: Hardest day of my life

There are no words to make things right. No actions either. Time really does heal wounds. They stay as scars but things do get better. I believe the Lord puts people here to pass His tests. Once they pass His tests, He calls them home. Most times it’s not ideal and I believe we fully won’t understand until we’re standing in His presence ourselves.

Dude.. it’s been it’s been almost 5 months for me.. it’s still very raw and hard. You have a point that people seem to go on with life. But to me it seems natural… I miss her everyday, some more than others… everyone here is with you. I myself is not going anywhere. Stay strong and try to focus on good things….??????

Sorry for you loss. I well understand such relationships

I lost my husband in January of last year after 40 years of marriage. We were very close and it’s been so hard. Counseling helps. My kids and grandkids add so much quality to my life & God shows up every day. I’m very intentional about the music I listen to; lots of Christian music-I am selective about which songs get stuck in my head. I’ve been a little disappointed by a couple of friends. It’s weird, but many of the people that check in on me aren’t my closest friends. Guys will text something funny or call to bitch about something, but it definitely feels like they’re just making sure I’m ok. People go back to their lives. Now I make the effort to reach out to them.

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It’s weird, but many of the people that check in on me aren’t my closest friends. Guys will text something funny or call to bitch about something, but it definitely feels like they’re just making sure I’m ok.

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my first thought was you're talking aboot Owlfan trying to dry hump you.... but then you mentioned 'text something funny' and that is completely out of his wheelhouse

I watch for this thread to pop up to see how you're doing.

You've had a lot of loss in a short period of time. These are difficult times.

I think you've mentioned that your father is still living. Do you have the sort of relationship that it would help to spend more time with him? If so, you may find some solace there. When my father passed away, spending more time with my mother was helpful.

Do you have friends who you would feel comfortable staying with for a few nights to get out of your home for a bit? A short change of scenery might do some good and give your mind a break. You could invite a few friends to dinner or some other event or activity as well. These aren't easy steps or quick fixes, but they can be helpful.

Grief is such a journey and it takes what it takes to go through it. It's good that your seeing a counselor.

You can always talk about it here. People have made that very clear to you.

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People are willing to give you about two weeks of sympathy and then they're ready for you to move on. If you don't, they move on without you. So I've quit talking about it. I've had a couple of sessions with a therapist. Too soon to tell if it will do any good. I start some meds next week. Maybe that will help.

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Keep talking about it to those who matter the most: siblings, best friends, pastor, mentor, etc. Get it out, my friend. Post on here if you want! Many of us are supportive.

I think most of us don't really expect our friends/family to really move on within a couple/few weeks, but I think it is healthy to encourage you to slowly jump back into as many things as you can handle. Only you can truly guage your readiness, though. It's a tough road for sure! Just remember there are people there who care about you, baw. Try to seek out as much healthy companionship as possible to help heal the emptiness.

It's only been 6 weeks? It's ok to still feel the struggle. Hang in there, baw!

Prayers to you.

She passed away. They didn’t break up.