re: Great interview with divorce attorney James Sexton.

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Is this where the incels act like they could have any woman they want, but choose to be alone based on some alpha male principles?

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The harsh reality is that marriage post childbirth is more about raising happy and loved children free of psychological damage who are prepared to be successful post adolescence than it is about the self-focused short term wants of the two parents involved.

The data is shockingly clear: children need two parent homes. Children without two parents involved have massive reductions in positive outcomes.

If you aren’t prepared to put some of your needs aside in favor of your children, don’t have children.

If you aren’t prepared to set aside some of your wants in favor of your spouse, don’t get married.

And unless you are a masochist, don’t marry someone who hasn’t demonstrated over a sustained period that they are capable of occasionally putting aside their short term wants for you in return and who are starting off with irredeemable psychological damage that will make it impossible for them to be a sustainable spouse or parent.

-Hard drug use
-unresolved sexual abuse
-mental illness / bi polar
-narcissistic tendencies
-non-monogamous history
-problem gambling
-moderate to severe alcoholism

Any of those reduce your odds of making it significantly, some being virtually impossible to overcome.

If we had non-politicized sociologists in America we would have study data on all of this, but it’s no longer acceptable to talk about many of these topics in academic circles.

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he laughs about how when he looks at his clients Facebook accounts that they are always posting "best wife ever" "best hubby ever" etc, and meantime they are in his office preparing to go to war in a nasty divorce.

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