re: Grass is Greener Relationships

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Dated 4 months later and two years down the road it turned into the same situation.

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Sounds like a you problem, baw

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These "women" nowadays are soul sucking selfish entities.

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We’re not all like that. You dated two bitches. That doesn’t mean we’re all even close to that.

There are so many guys reading this and thinking, “marriage fricking sucks, I feel the OP, and at least I’m not alone in my misery.”

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someone who made you happy and fulfilled your needs

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Look in the mirror.

That is the person who decides IF you are happy.

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The grass can be just as green on your side of the fence if you remember to water and nurture it. If you put the same effort and care into your relationship now as you did when it was brand new , you will no longer desire to see what the grass looks like on the other side of that fence.

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Sometimes, you need to hit the reset button and till / resod your yard.

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When someone decides to leave there’s usually somebody else already in the picture.

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People don't leave what they have unless what they feel they are going to is a better choice.

This doesn't always mean that someone leaving is leaving for someone else. Sometimes just leaving to be by yourself is a better-perceived option than staying put.

At the end of the day, even in this thread, the only thing to make things better is to work on yourself. Relying on someone else to make you "happy" is a bad recipe. It won't work.

Only 1 part is needed in order to change a relationship.

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Divorce is the shittiest thing I’ve ever been through, and we didn’t have children

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I'm sorry you have gone through that. I agree, it's pretty brutal, even if somewhat "amicable." And throw children into the mix, it's even worse because most children want their parents to always be together.

I have learned through my process of divorce that our children are going to be okay. No, they didn't want this, and neither did I, but they don't control mom and dad and I don't control my former wife.

I do believe that divorce is one of the most selfish acts a person can do, next to infidelity. The only time I support divorce is if someone is in a relationship where there is physical or verbal abuse, drug or alcohol abuse or someone is constantly disrespectful and makes no attempt at being a good or better person.

Otherwise, when issues arise, and they always do, having someone (a professional) work you through your issues can help, if the other person is willing. 50 % in a marriage will never equal 100 %, but in saying that, often times we look to change the other person when we should be changing ourselves.

I was guilty of this, without realizing initially I was guilty of this. It's a tough lesson to learn, but I am better equipped for the future, whatever that might look like.

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Is the grass greener with someone new? Or do the same problems tend to arise?

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I'd be willing to bet you already know the answer to this but I'll give it a shot.

If your dream is simply to find someone who fills your needs the grass will always look greener on the other side.

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Is the grass greener with someone new? Or do the same problems tend to arise?

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being with someone who made you happy and fulfilled your needs?

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No one can make you happy or fulfill your needs. You have to do that for yourself.

“What are you trying to tell me? That I can dodge bullets?”

“No. I’m trying to tell you that when you’re ready, you won’t have to.”

Just broke up with my bipolar girlfriend.
frick that shite.