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re: Gather round all you baws thinking about getting married
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:09 am to SlowFlowPro
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:09 am to SlowFlowPro
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think it's a combination of this along with "what will people think of me?" worries for her friends, etc
OP is super concerned about this as well. He wouldn’t have started this thread if he wasn’t. He’s afraid other baws will think he’s a pussy unless he celebrates thanksgiving as normal this year.
This post was edited on 11/25/20 at 8:11 am
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:10 am to Eli Goldfinger
Sure seems like a lot of demanding/controlling people have conveniently found their faux excuse with Covid.
Anyway, I still plan to get married eventually
Anyway, I still plan to get married eventually

This post was edited on 11/25/20 at 8:11 am
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:12 am to NewIberiaHaircut
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This fight isn’t about Covid. If you haven’t learned that yet then you haven’t been paying attention.
And there he is! Mr. “The fight isn’t about _____. If you haven’t learned that, then blah blah blah...I’m so smart on the message boards!”
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:13 am to Seeker
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Get married, but make sure you are committing to the right one. I’m not saying it is easy and that people don’t change, but don’t settle.
that sounds great. solid advice.
unfortunately no one can predict the future. people change and its mostly for selfish reasons and they don't even know they are doing it.
i married my best friend. it was great. for a while. then it went south. no amount of counseling made a difference. no amount of self-introspective made a difference, she thought she was not in the wrong. the emotional disconnect happened. the physical followed.
sex felt like a forced task. "hurry up" - if i ever those those freaking two words again from another woman i am going to flip my shite.
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:15 am to LouisianaLady
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Sure seems like a lot of demanding/controlling people have conveniently found their faux excuse with Covid.
My Mom has already cancelled Christmas with her extended family 100% because she doesn’t want to deal with her sister coming in town
Her excuse is “I’m not sure 6 households should get together” yet she’s been playing cards twice a week with 15 other ladies
She threatens to cancel Christmas as soon as my Aunt leaves every year, now she finally has an excuse
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:16 am to Eli Goldfinger
Sounds like your wife simply doesn’t want to go imo. Stand your ground.
Some like to keep you under their thumb. I can relate.

Some like to keep you under their thumb. I can relate.

This post was edited on 11/25/20 at 8:20 am
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:19 am to Tarps99
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That doesn’t sound like a marriage, it sounds like a place of employment where the management likes to nit pick about everything, but never make a decision.
Yep. Some of you people don’t realize how much better you could have it with a better match. There are plenty of people out there happily with someone they have never argued seriously with.
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:22 am to LouisianaLady
quote:. Too late though, lady.. Hindsight is 20/20 and all.
Yep. Some of you people don’t realize how much better you could have it with a better match. There are plenty of people out there happily with someone they have never argued seriously with.

Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:26 am to LSUJML

Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:27 am to Eli Goldfinger
I would argue the 2 most consistent pieces of advice I have received in my short 31 years of life is #1: Do not get married. #2: Save every dollar you get.




Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:30 am to Eli Goldfinger
Marriage is fine. It’s your wife that is the issue.
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:36 am to gamatt53
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He wouldn’t have started this thread if he wasn’t. He’s afraid other baws will think he’s a pussy unless he celebrates thanksgiving as normal this year.
I bet you are one of the pussies that narcs on families for having thanksgiving.
I find it funny, that leftists are so agreeable with lockdown orders. After all, they have no where to go for holidays anyway. Majority of their families hate them. It's why they are leftists.
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:36 am to Eli Goldfinger
Define out of state by travel time & type of transportation
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:38 am to Eli Goldfinger
That sucks man, I can't imagine being on opposite sides of this whole COVID response thing. In this situation I've been fortunate my wife sees through the bs as much as I do.
Unfortunately you're screwed either way it sounds like so even though it's going to suck longer to leave your wife, it's the right thing to do by your family so stay strong and go see them.
My wife used to pull some of these "tests" forcing me to choose between her and my family earlier in our marriage and it was infuriating and the source of our biggest fights but it doesn't really happen much now. I don't know how you guys are but it's probably a maturity thing. Unless you've been married a long time and she's still pulling this stuff you might have a problem.
Unfortunately you're screwed either way it sounds like so even though it's going to suck longer to leave your wife, it's the right thing to do by your family so stay strong and go see them.
My wife used to pull some of these "tests" forcing me to choose between her and my family earlier in our marriage and it was infuriating and the source of our biggest fights but it doesn't really happen much now. I don't know how you guys are but it's probably a maturity thing. Unless you've been married a long time and she's still pulling this stuff you might have a problem.
This post was edited on 11/25/20 at 8:44 am
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:39 am to HempHead
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don’t settle What I am I supposed to do, date for 40 years?
Solid response. Also, you don’t know the true person until you move in together. When you’re in college she might clean her apartment because she knows you’re coming over but once she gets you in the bad that shites over. Then she’s gonna ask you to pay a maid.
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:39 am to Eli Goldfinger
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Well...3 days ago, dear wife decides we should heed the CDC’s advice and stay home.
Amazes me that there are people like this, but then I remember that most of Germany sort of passively enabled the Holocaust because their government said it was a good idea.
Not the kind of person I'd want to sleep next to.
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:40 am to LouisianaLady
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Yep. Some of you people don’t realize how much better you could have it with a better match. There are plenty of people out there happily with someone they have never argued seriously with.
We've had a good marriage/relationship for 17 years now but I don't know about the never seriously argued part

It's been pretty rare but we've had some doozies.
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:40 am to FowlGuy
Those aren’t reasons not to get married. They’re just reasons not to get married young and quickly.
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:42 am to fallguy_1978
We’ve had a few bumps in the road no doubt but it has always been directly in relation to us and our relationship. We have never fought about external things, other people, etc. Just doesn’t feel worth a fight.
Even when we disagreed politically, the extent of the “argument” was laughing calling the other person a dumbass. It blows my mind the things people get legit butthurt over.
We are both also very emotionally tame(?) so most things fly by because the idea of getting mad sounds like too much energy
It’s kinda like TD. A lot of people think this place is a cesspool and think y’all are horrible racist misogynists. I can’t be bothered to be offended
Even when we disagreed politically, the extent of the “argument” was laughing calling the other person a dumbass. It blows my mind the things people get legit butthurt over.
We are both also very emotionally tame(?) so most things fly by because the idea of getting mad sounds like too much energy

It’s kinda like TD. A lot of people think this place is a cesspool and think y’all are horrible racist misogynists. I can’t be bothered to be offended
This post was edited on 11/25/20 at 8:48 am
Posted on 11/25/20 at 8:47 am to Eli Goldfinger
I'm on the third one, this one has been 15 years and it's either strike three you're out or third times a charm. It's what you make it.
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