re: Friends Who Drift Apart

It's tough. H.S. friends scattered, some back in the BR/NOLa axis, but harder to get together. Commuted to college and worked, hard to make close friends that way.

Our little friends group, all parents of kids the same age and class, just dumped us out a few months ago around H.S. graduation time. Lots of dishonesty, there, which made it frustrating and hurtful as we had spent LOTS of time together, even taking a couple trips together.

I don't understand anyone who puts all of their free time into their significant other, and none into friendships. Honestly that seems bad for marriages too... I've seen people grow to resent one another because they don't let each other have enough space and grow as individuals/people.

It is harder as you get older, but some friendships can be just as meaningful and important as a marriage.

I regret letting a few of mine go in recent years and am trying to spend time with them more.

I'm 30, and my HS friends and I have been largely just a fantasy football league in recent years. We certainly all support each other, but we rarely speak, much less hang out.

My core college friends, about 5-6 fraternity brothers, at least text and see each other a few times a year. Those bonds, for whatever reason, are a little stronger and don't seem to fade even after long periods without communication. I'm guessing that is because you're closer to your adult self at 22 than you are at 17-18.

It's hard to hang on once work, wives and kids get involved but I keep in touch with my friends from Kindergarten, Grade School / High School etc.

We grew up in a small town.

We buried two of my class mates from Kinder through college this year and most of the "boys" showed up at the funerals. Nice to see

I should have been friends with less intelligent people. Through childhood, high school, college, and dental school, I had about a half dozen really close friends. They all became successful people and are scattered across the country. Lost touch with all but one friend, who is about an hour and a half away but always on the road for work. We get together a couple times a year. I'm not big on casual friends and I don't make small talk. Wife says "make new friends." It ain't gonna happen. Gonna be a lonely old frick in my old age. My 15 yr. old kid is my best friend right now. Empty nest syndrome is going to hit hard in a few years. Note to you youngsters: make friends with stupid people who will never leave your hometown.