Family or friend's burial site- How often do you visit?

I visit some of my deceased family members’ grave sites at least once or twice a year.

I don’t feel much by doing so, tbh.

Never. I choose to remember their memory not a place in the ground. Most of my family donates their body so luckily there isn't a spot for them.

To each their own though.

I'm not criticizing or disagreeing with you or anybody else, bc we all grieve differently and feel differently about these things...

But I just don't see the point in going to the gravesite. I remember them much more when I hear a certain song or eat something that reminds me of times with them, etc.

I'll gladly go with the wife or my mom if they want me to, but I'm not really getting anything from it

Every single time we're back home I visit my family's plots as well as my Father in law's.

One of my best friends passed away back in 2011. I still visit his grave site every other month. Sometimes more. A lot of family and friends get together there since it's not too far away from all of us.

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Do any of you do this on a regular basis?

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Barely ever. We have a family plot in the Ponchatoula cemetery. My Mom who passed when I was 6 in 1974 and my twin brother who died in 1968 a few days after we were born are buried. My Dad took me and my Brother a few times after she passed to the grave site but we became so upset that just quit taking us. I went so long without visiting it that I couldn't remember the exact spot where the plot was and had to hunt for it even though I had a general idea when I went recently. The way I look at it my family members are not there, just the remains of their bodies. I can visit with them and talk to them anytime I want without going to the grave yard. But that is just me, there is no right or wrong answer here. Everyone deals with death in different and their own ways.

That looks like a very peaceful burial spot.

Never once been back to my brother's since the funeral in2008. I am not sure what the point is, just to be sad and further fuel my panic attacks and midlife crisis?

ETA I will have to revisit eventually because my mom's ashes are to be buried with him, she died late March when everything locked down so she is still in a box in my dad's living room until shite opens back up.

I once read that you should make major life decisions in a cemetery. I started doing this and it’s pretty amazing the amount of clarity you get when making tough decisions.

You don’t always have to go to Facebook to get Facebook quality advice.

I feel bad for those little rural cemeteries that end up right against roads or about to fall into the nasty canal. That is one of the main reasons I never want to be buried. 50 years from now, your body is going to be run over by Waste Management trucks going through a new neighborhood or your eternal "view" is a tattoo strip mall.