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re: Family friend’s funeral is in the middle of a non refundable vacation
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:13 pm to flyAU
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:13 pm to flyAU
My mom died when I was 31. I wouldn’t have cared if any of my friends had a trip planned and couldn't make it.
Heck I wouldn’t have cared if any of my friends just didn’t want to come.
Come to think of it, half of them weren’t there.
It just wasn’t important to me that anybody was there.
You would have to be a complete douche to hold a grudge against somebody for not being at a funeral.
That said, do whatever your heart tells you to do.
That’s what my mom would have said.
Heck I wouldn’t have cared if any of my friends just didn’t want to come.
Come to think of it, half of them weren’t there.
It just wasn’t important to me that anybody was there.
You would have to be a complete douche to hold a grudge against somebody for not being at a funeral.
That said, do whatever your heart tells you to do.
That’s what my mom would have said.
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Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:17 pm to Tigerpaw123
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Your best friend?
You would not be asking if you did not already know what to do, get your suit pressed and show your arse up
This
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:21 pm to flyAU
Define non-refundable. Did you use a credit card? You are staying at 2 different places, which is on which nights?
I would try to change my vacation to the 11th, 12th, and 13th; even if they meant a different destination. Especially if it was just my wife and I with no kids
I would try to change my vacation to the 11th, 12th, and 13th; even if they meant a different destination. Especially if it was just my wife and I with no kids
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:22 pm to LSUBoo
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Talk to your best friend in private beforehand and make sure he's doing well, ask him if he needs anything, and explain why you won't be at the funeral. Then a few days after check in on him and make sure he's still doing alright.
I had to do something similar for my best friend, and I was asked to be a pall-bearer. It broke my heart, but I couldn’t justify the plane ticket and expense at the time. He completely understood and I made up for it later with him. Friends are good at understanding.
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:23 pm to flyAU
I hate saying this, but a lot of funerals are live streamed now.
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:25 pm to flyAU
Tell him you regretfully cannot make it. Be there for him when you get back. Once the whirlwind few days of the funeral are over and things return to a somewhat normal state, he’ll need you then. Be there.
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:26 pm to Freight Joker
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You would have to be a complete douche to hold a grudge against somebody for not being at a funeral.
It’s all about respect
Some things are more important than a vacation.
This post was edited on 6/3/21 at 9:27 pm
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:28 pm to flyAU
I skipped a cousin’s wedding and an uncle’s funeral on separate years because they were on opening weekend of deer season.
So I’m sure you can guess what my advice would be.
So I’m sure you can guess what my advice would be.
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:31 pm to flyAU
quote:pics?
my wife
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:32 pm to flyAU
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This post was edited on 12/18/21 at 10:26 am
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:36 pm to flyAU
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He was like another dad to me
I think this is pretty important.
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:36 pm to Freight Joker
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Freight Joker
Lost my mom at 29. You are correct. I didn’t care if people didn’t show up, but I did remember those that did.
My buddy has horrible way of communicating. His dad had heart problems and heart surgery a couple years back. It wasn’t until a few weeks ago I knew that his dad was under hospice care for 8 months and I had no clue. I know he would tell me to go to Florida, but I know I need to be there.
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:43 pm to flyAU
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I know he would tell me to go to Florida
Of course he would, that is what friends do
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but I know I need to be there
Of course you do, that is what friends do
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:55 pm to flyAU
When I go, there are a few people whose plans I hope I get to frick up on the way out.
Posted on 6/3/21 at 9:56 pm to flyAU
If I'm your friend I'd totally understand and be cool with it. In fact, I'd rather you not eat the cost of the vacation or not have to go through hoops to try and do both.
To me, you enjoying a relaxing vacation with your wife takes precedent over coming to a sad funeral for my dad. Being there for me afterwards is way more important.
To me, you enjoying a relaxing vacation with your wife takes precedent over coming to a sad funeral for my dad. Being there for me afterwards is way more important.
This post was edited on 6/4/21 at 6:40 am
Posted on 6/3/21 at 10:02 pm to flyAU
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He was like another dad to me
Your know what you have to do.
Posted on 6/3/21 at 10:03 pm to Johnny Carson
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I can be paid to be your lookalike
I like this out of the box thinking. "Hi, as flyAu proxy, I would like to offer my condolences."
I assumed he meant he’d be the lookalike on vacation with the wife.
Posted on 6/3/21 at 10:10 pm to tigerinthebueche
If you’re posting on the O-T I assume you own a private jet, you can be in and out in 6 hours
Posted on 6/3/21 at 10:13 pm to flyAU
When my mother passed away, she was out of town about 1.5 hours away from BR. I had a few friends attend, but I didn’t pass judgement on those that weren’t there.
I understood. Even if it was more local I would’ve understood. I agreed with the OP that said something like “they don’t care as much as you think they do” - it’s understandable.
I understood. Even if it was more local I would’ve understood. I agreed with the OP that said something like “they don’t care as much as you think they do” - it’s understandable.
Posted on 6/3/21 at 10:13 pm to flyAU
Are logistics a nightmare for you to go back and forth?
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