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expectations on anniversary night?
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:29 am
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:29 am
thinking back as i was talking with a friend, what expectations do you have with your wife on your anniversary night?
make it a night with dinner?
weekend getaway?
involve the kids (for those that have been married 15 plus years)?
my buddy is going through a rough patch. he says there is no sex in the bedroom (been months) and anytime he brings it up or tries to initiate in a non-rapey kind of way, he gets the same thing i used to get before getting divorced "i'm tired." "not right now." "maybe later." "let's just see how the night goes."
i just listen and we laugh. i don't want to offer him any real advice because my marriage didn't work. it would be like asking a priest about marriage. never been there, how could he know.
i did say try to be a better listener and do nicer things leading up to anniversary day. don't just make it about that day and maybe that will help.
make it a night with dinner?
weekend getaway?
involve the kids (for those that have been married 15 plus years)?
my buddy is going through a rough patch. he says there is no sex in the bedroom (been months) and anytime he brings it up or tries to initiate in a non-rapey kind of way, he gets the same thing i used to get before getting divorced "i'm tired." "not right now." "maybe later." "let's just see how the night goes."
i just listen and we laugh. i don't want to offer him any real advice because my marriage didn't work. it would be like asking a priest about marriage. never been there, how could he know.
i did say try to be a better listener and do nicer things leading up to anniversary day. don't just make it about that day and maybe that will help.
This post was edited on 8/13/20 at 10:31 am
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Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:32 am to Lincoln Dawson
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"i'm tired." "not right now." "maybe later." "let's just see how the night goes."
He should start using those excuses for any and every time she asks him for something. That’ll make his marriage better.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:33 am to Lincoln Dawson
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let's just see how the night goes
Do women say that? That's demoralizing.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:33 am to Lincoln Dawson
"your buddy"'s wife if fricking around on you.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:33 am to Lincoln Dawson
Shes cheating on him
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:34 am to Ssubba
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Do women say that?
oh yes
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That's demoralizing
what's sad is mine said it in all seriousness. as in she was not joking and thought it was a good and tactful response.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:34 am to Lincoln Dawson
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"i'm tired."
try in the morning
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:35 am to Bucktail1
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Shes cheating on him
that's come up between us. he brought it up. he wholeheartedly doesn't think so. said there is an emotional disconnect because of stuff he has done in the past that was selfish on his end that caused a major rift.
maybe that is true but at some point as a guy i would think there would be physical relations between them by now.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:36 am to Lincoln Dawson
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there is an emotional disconnect because of stuff he has done in the past that was selfish on his end that caused a major rift.
So he cheated on her?
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:37 am to Ssubba
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let's just see how the night goes
Do women say that?
Never once in 11 years of marriage has anything like this happened to me.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:37 am to Lincoln Dawson
After reading a thread on here the other day about dating at 40, I told my wife that if we split up there would be a line of women around the block waiting for me to PIIHB. Went over about as you would expect.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:37 am to Lincoln Dawson
He's waiting on his anniversary to hopefully have sex? Man, that sounds like a marriage that's in trouble.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:37 am to Lincoln Dawson
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expectations on anniversary night?
Oral sex.
Wife: “frick you!”
Husband: “frick you too!”
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:37 am to Lincoln Dawson
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he says there is no sex in the bedroom (been months)
I really don't see how that's possible. That would be awkward as shite to go that long; I don't see how you bounce back from that as a couple
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:37 am to Lincoln Dawson
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make it a night with dinner? weekend getaway?
Usually one of these. I enjoy that stuff as much or more than my wife. Usually just getting away from the house for a weekend gets the lady in a sexy mood.
I can't speak for those with marriage problems though.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:38 am to Lincoln Dawson
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let's just see how the night goes
you mean drink beer then go to sleep?
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:42 am to Lincoln Dawson
Usually the OT, being the ballers that we are, just throw a bunch of money at our problems. Has your buddy tried that?
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:43 am to Lincoln Dawson
Sexless marriages are miserable and ultimately doomed. I do not understand how men can endure relationships where they have sex once every couple of weeks, or even less frequently. Sex is what distinguishes a platonic from a romantic relationship. Sex is the highest form of pleasure a human can experience, one of life's true joys. All of the science supports common sense anecdotal information: sex is psychologically beneficial and central to a healthy, intimate relationship. Couples should have as much sex as possible while they are alive and healthy enough to have it.
This post was edited on 8/13/20 at 10:44 am
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:43 am to Displaced
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So he cheated on her?
no and i really do believe him. said he was just a prick for the most part especially early on and was very selfish. she hasn't forgiven him. he admitted he probably wasn't ready for marriage when they got married.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 10:43 am to Lincoln Dawson
she's not cheating. she is just like 80% of the women that do this after they get married. they don't have to perform anymore. either that or kids and schedules get in the way. both parties have to make time for it or its going to ruin a marriage.
after reading more posts it sounds like he fricked it up by his personality. if shes not emotionally attracted to him she's not gonna frick him. common sense. they better figure it out or find a good lawyer
after reading more posts it sounds like he fricked it up by his personality. if shes not emotionally attracted to him she's not gonna frick him. common sense. they better figure it out or find a good lawyer
This post was edited on 8/13/20 at 10:48 am
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