re: Ever just need to blow off some steam?

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4 pages in and no: You’re poor responses because you don’t buy handmade furniture from Italy?

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Also, no PIIHB. The OT is slipping.

I learned a long time ago to inventory all parts before. If all the parts arent’t there you can stop right there until she provides them.

If this is true OP that’s about as much of an attack on you that she could’ve made…in the typical female passive aggressive fashion. That deserves a direct challenge and confrontation.

“If you have something to say then say it….” usually works for me. Don’t let her get away with that shite.

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Tonight she kept taking little shots at how long it was taking me to build 2 nightstands for our teenage daughter.

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As silly as it sounds to y'all, I'm sure, these two nightstands have a whole world of emotion wrapped around them.

It is highly likely that she requested a room makeover for Christmas to have a "big girl" room. It is likely a transition from that tween look to a more mature high school girl. Matching nightstands are often the first step.

Your wife is probably in a vortex of emotion about your daughter growing up and possibly leaving for college soon. At the same time, darling teen daughter is probably giving her a world of grief on the daily.

ZERO excuse for the snarky comment at you, though. Just trying to give a background as to what is likely the issue, unless she speaks like this to you often.

And for all of you "she disrespected you - divorce her" crowd, this is exactly what's wrong with our society. They've been together at least 14 years. I'm sure he has said something equally mean to her at some point. You can't throw in the towel on a family over one (from what we know) isolated incident. You have to have thicker skin for your kids.

I mean, it sounds like she didn't say anything like this during the building of the other 487,000 pieces of furniture, so I think they're good.

Remind her that us woodworkers have tons of sharp tools at our disposal as well as the means to quickly and efficiently build boxes that don't leak.....

Then kiss her and say "just kidding".

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As silly as it sounds to y'all, I'm sure, these two nightstands have a whole world of emotion wrapped around them.

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Then tell her to get her lazy, emotional azz out in the shop and try and build something herself.

After hours of abject failure, busted knuckles and bleeding fingers, she can then come back into the house, apologize profusely and make this good man a gdanm sandwich while he performs his magic.

My wife does that bullshite to me. Always wants to spend money calling a licensed professional to fix the sink plumbing or something, even though I’ve plumbed up entire catfish hatcheries before which is vastly more complicated. I usually just wait for her to go to town to shop and fix it


I’ll add she doesn’t do it in a snarky or disrespectful way. She is just one of those that seems to believe it’s better to call a licensed professional for everything home repair related.

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I told her I'm going to have to finish it tomorrow and she walks over; pulls the drawer out which droops and says "I'll just call someone who can actually build it right."

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Sounds like there is more going on inside her head besides the nightstand. My experience is women act like this when they're mad about something else and it all boils over into some dumb shite like her insulting something you're very good at.

Where does she keep your testicles that she took?

Nevermind, she probably didn’t let you know and then mocks you about it





And probably tells you “she’s gonna call someone who does have nuts”

Probably some dynamic between your wife you and the daughter that she is projecting. Possibly you are also unconciously playing into the pattern.